This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. HUMBLE: …not proud or haughty, not arrogant or assertive, reflecting, expressing or offered in a spirit of deference, respect or submission, unpretentious, lacking all signs of pride, aggressiveness or assertiveness. How simple the […]
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I know, I get it. I’ve always worn a collar since you first met me. It’s become a part of my permanent wardrobe. So, you’ll notice it when it’s missing. You want to know what happened. But for all that is kind and gentle and caring, please don’t bring it up. In April 2017, KnyghtMare
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. This question is asked with increasing frequency especially among those who are married and desire to remain with their spouse. Discovery of this lifestyle does not doom your current marriage, relationship, engagement etc.
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If you didn’t catch it in the post about my Miracle Morning, I am without a collar. After 10 years in KnyghtMare’s collar, he asked for its return in mid-April. I was devastated, but I knew things were pretty bad off for quite some time. You might have picked that up from the Meditation Monday
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Hello, my name is Tequila Rose and I’m a little. I love my stuffies and am always asking Daddy for more. I think juice tastes 100% better in my sippy cup. I love to color and feel that I can never have enough coloring pages, crayons, or colored pencils. I can spend countless hours sitting
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You’re a submissive in your first D/s relationship. It’s not the exact relationship you want – maybe your partner’s still married, maybe you are, maybe you’re long-distance – but it’s okay. You love how submitting to your Dominant makes you feel. The voice they use, the kink you do together, and the realization it makes
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Explore a sample Master/slave contract that includes an ethical non-monogamy section. Use this customizable D/s template to create a relationship contract tailored to your dynamic.
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When I was first learning about sex as a teenager there were a few key bits of information that the adults around me wanted to drive home. Sex was done in a loving relationship; remember “when two people love each other very, very much…”, as adults and only if you wanted children. Nothing was ever
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Struggling to find the perfect name for your Dominant? Explore a list of creative, respectful, and meaningful title suggestions for Dominants in BDSM relationships.
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This is our current contract, making adjustments from our other standard version that has served us so well over the years. Over time it became ingrained in us. I knew when to kneel, how he liked me dressed, what he expected to be called. We needed something lighter, less clunky. I have made available our
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Looking for a BDSM D/s contract example? This sample template offers a guide to crafting agreements that define roles, set boundaries, and enhance communication in D/s dynamics.
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The Mister and I signed on to live in a 24/7 Dominant and submissive dynamic pretty early on in our relationship. Like actually signed on to a physical line stating what we would or would not do in day to day living. I remember vividly drafting up a lengthy contract (about 6 or 7 pages)
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New to D/s relationships? Learn how to define your needs, identify compatibility, and set the foundation for a successful BDSM dynamic with this beginner-friendly guide.
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Dear lunaKM, I am new to the lifestyle, and have never had a true Dom. However, now there is a Dom that has shown interest in me, alongside his current submissive/fiancee. While it would be a long distance relationship (LDR), I am interested in the offer, but unsure as how to pursue. To give a
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I was recently chatting at a local BDSM coffee event with a just-made friend who made mention (as she was just meeting my husband and I for the first time) that it was quite surprising to learn that he is the Dominant one and I am the submissive one. We get this all the time, if we
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A healthy, happy relationship is one of the key desires for many submissives, no matter where they are on their journey. When I first started exploring BDSM, I encountered many people who instilled valuable knowledge that strong, stable, and loving relationships can exist between Dominants and submissives. It made me crave a relationship so badly
Due to the traditional components of the Dominant/submissive dynamic, the topic of financial dependency seems to spring up in a lot of discussions. Is being financially dependent integral to being a 27/4 submissive? Does long term submission mean giving up your job? Is it healthy, or does it raise red flags? So forth, etc. Like
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Dear Submissive Guide, I am finally at ease with my Daddy Dom, ready to move on in our relationship, giving him my trust which has been hard for me, because of past abuses. Even thinking of myself as ‘little” for him was hard at first. But I so enjoy the simple nature of the relationship.
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Luna, what is reasonable to expect from a dominant in exchange for submission and service? I realize everyone is different, but when a sub is not being financially supported and is doing household care and management, handling the everyday paperwork of bill paying, handling home repair calls, etc.; assuming her Dom is loving, caring, what else
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This is a guest post by kaya of Underhishand.com. My daughter found the key and rifled through our toybox about two years ago. She was 12. This absolutely and completely traumatized her. She had enough knowledge (most likely from the internet) to know what dildos and vibes and plugs were, cuffs and whips are pretty
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