Whether you’re in a 24/7 D/s relationship or just exploring, this category delves into roles, power exchanges, and the emotional intricacies that make these connections unique.
Uniqueness is underrated. Everyone wants to be like everyone else, are comparing themselves to others in order to fit in, but it’s the fun little unique aspects of a relationship that make it special. Kindling those unique things is especially important for me in a mono-poly and likely most other relationships. Every relationship is unique […]
When I began Submissive Guide years ago, I wanted it to be a safe haven for information and experience exchange for submissives. I didn’t realize that it would be a resource for Dominants as well. As time went on, I noticed that I was getting questions from Dominants in my email and praise from them
I’m a New Dominant, How Can Submissive Guide Help Me Understand My Submissive? Read More »
Death. It is going to happen to all of us. It’s a natural part of life. But we avoid talking about it more than anything else. Dealing with a death of a loved one would go a lot smoother if we knew what their final wishes were, right? Do you know what your partner would
Final Preparations: Do You Know Your Dominant’s Final Wishes? Read More »
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Collaring is the term commonly used by those in the D/s community to describe the commencement of a relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. It carries the same type of weight that
The Collar of Consideration Read More »
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. HUMBLE: …not proud or haughty, not arrogant or assertive, reflecting, expressing or offered in a spirit of deference, respect or submission, unpretentious, lacking all signs of pride, aggressiveness or assertiveness. How simple the
Understanding Humility in D/s Read More »
I know, I get it. I’ve always worn a collar since you first met me. It’s become a part of my permanent wardrobe. So, you’ll notice it when it’s missing. You want to know what happened. But for all that is kind and gentle and caring, please don’t bring it up. In April 2017, KnyghtMare
What NOT to Do and Say When Someone You Know is Uncollared Read More »
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. This question is asked with increasing frequency especially among those who are married and desire to remain with their spouse. Discovery of this lifestyle does not doom your current marriage, relationship, engagement etc.
Enhancing the Dominant or Submissive Traits in Your Vanilla Partner Read More »
If you didn’t catch it in the post about my Miracle Morning, I am without a collar. After 10 years in KnyghtMare’s collar, he asked for its return in mid-April. I was devastated, but I knew things were pretty bad off for quite some time. You might have picked that up from the Meditation Monday
Without His Collar: How This Happened and What I’m Learning About Myself Read More »
Hello, my name is Tequila Rose and I’m a little. I love my stuffies and am always asking Daddy for more. I think juice tastes 100% better in my sippy cup. I love to color and feel that I can never have enough coloring pages, crayons, or colored pencils. I can spend countless hours sitting
We’re So Much More than “Just Littles” Read More »
You’re a submissive in your first D/s relationship. It’s not the exact relationship you want – maybe your partner’s still married, maybe you are, maybe you’re long-distance – but it’s okay. You love how submitting to your Dominant makes you feel. The voice they use, the kink you do together, and the realization it makes
What To Do When You’re Unhappy in Your D/s Relationship Read More »
Explore a sample Master/slave contract that includes an ethical non-monogamy section. Use this customizable D/s template to create a relationship contract tailored to your dynamic.
Sample Master/slave Contract with Ethical Non-Monogamy Section Read More »
When I was first learning about sex as a teenager there were a few key bits of information that the adults around me wanted to drive home. Sex was done in a loving relationship; remember “when two people love each other very, very much…”, as adults and only if you wanted children. Nothing was ever
The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship Read More »
Struggling to find the perfect name for your Dominant? Explore a list of creative, respectful, and meaningful title suggestions for Dominants in BDSM relationships.
What Do I Call My Dominant? Read More »
This is our current contract, making adjustments from our other standard version that has served us so well over the years. Over time it became ingrained in us. I knew when to kneel, how he liked me dressed, what he expected to be called. We needed something lighter, less clunky. I have made available our
Sample Master/slave contract – Basic Read More »
Looking for a BDSM D/s contract example? This sample template offers a guide to crafting agreements that define roles, set boundaries, and enhance communication in D/s dynamics.
Navigating D/s: A Sample Contract Read More »
This is part two of the guide to starting D/s relationships. If you missed part 1, you may want to go and read that first. In the previous article, we talked about how a relationship develops in basic terms, why it’s important to identify the mechanics and what more you can expect from a D/s relationship.
New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 2 Read More »
The Mister and I signed on to live in a 24/7 Dominant and submissive dynamic pretty early on in our relationship. Like actually signed on to a physical line stating what we would or would not do in day to day living. I remember vividly drafting up a lengthy contract (about 6 or 7 pages)
Contracts as a Road Map to Ever-Evolving Dynamics Read More »
New to D/s relationships? Learn how to define your needs, identify compatibility, and set the foundation for a successful BDSM dynamic with this beginner-friendly guide.
New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 1 Read More »
Dear lunaKM, I am new to the lifestyle, and have never had a true Dom. However, now there is a Dom that has shown interest in me, alongside his current submissive/fiancee. While it would be a long distance relationship (LDR), I am interested in the offer, but unsure as how to pursue. To give a
How to Approach a Couple into Kink and Polyamory when You are New Read More »
I was recently chatting at a local BDSM coffee event with a just-made friend who made mention (as she was just meeting my husband and I for the first time) that it was quite surprising to learn that he is the Dominant one and I am the submissive one. We get this all the time, if we
Don’t Judge A Label By Its Cover: Dispelling Stereotypes of D/s Roles Read More »
