How To Perform a Self-Assessment Before You Search For a Dominant Partner

It's good to start forming an idea of who you are and what you are looking for before you start searching for a Dominant

Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Like anything else, one has to learn to go with the flow and take the highs with the lows. I hope that any beginners, and even those who are well experienced will continue the sometimes rocky journey despite the aspects of the lifestyle that can destroy and fully embrace the aspects of the lifestyle that can nourish it.

The Importance of Self-Acceptance When You Are a Little

It’s hard not to internalize the negative messages from people who don’t understand the ageplay dynamic. But you can learn to accept who you are and come out stronger. I’ll give you my own story and some words of encouragement for you to build from. Accept who you are.

2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions - Day 1: Learning to Kneel

Do you kneel in front of your Dominant partner at any point of your service? Is there a specific way to do that?

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

Male Submission – The Worm

One common archetype of submissive men is the worm, a man who wants to be humiliated, degraded, and tormented as much as possible by most any and every dominant woman he encounters. Depending upon the male sub’s orientation, he may want to be treated this way by only dominant women, only dominant men, or regardless of gender.

Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions?

What can i say to those who snub their noses at the old school ways of BDSM to maybe make them see how damaging what they are doing is? Or even possibly help to change their attitudes?

BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If...?

Should you start saying you enjoy kinky sex? Is it bad to be kinky? What is kinky anyway?

Submissive Journals: Bullet/Analogue Journal Review

Developed by Ryder Carroll, the idea of analog/bullet journaling is kind of elegant in its simplicity. You have one notebook. Everything goes in that notebook. So what can you put in it that's related to submission?