Being capable, respected, and accustomed to carrying everything does not erase the desire to submit. This personal essay explores how consent, boundaries, and self-knowledge can make submission feel less like a contradiction and more like an honest part of who you are.
When your submissive identity feels all-consuming, how do you reconnect with the rest of who you are? This month, we explore what it means to rediscover yourself outside of D/s, navigate identity conflicts, and rebuild your sense of self—one moment of clarity, curiosity, and courage at a time.
Unpacking Submissive Identity: Who Am I Outside of D/s? Read More »
Being outspoken or opinionated doesn’t make you a bad submissive. This article explores why personality traits aren’t inherently Dominant or submissive—and how honesty, communication, and self-awareness help you attract the right dynamic for your authentic self. Embrace who you are and find the partner who values it.
Is having strong opinions a bad trait in a submissive? Read More »
Full Question: Do you ever feel conflicted about being submissive and feminist? Answer: I believe that the feminist movement can move in parallel to what submission is to the D/s world. It’s about making choices, even if the choice is not to have any options. Hardcore feminism tries to state that any situation where the
Do you feel conflicted about being submissive and feminist? Read More »
Full Question: How would I know if I am a submissive? Answer: Submission has been called a gift, a natural characteristic, and a choice. Some people find submission a natural way to live, and it comes to them easily and simply. Other submissives have to learn about submission step by step. When you feel you
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Do you have a good idea of what your submission looks like? Just about every single BDSM book, website, or experienced kinky person has defined submission at one time or another. The dictionary definition just doesn’t cover all the nuances that living in a submissive lifestyle can include. If you’re brand new to BDSM or
The Basic Tenets of Being a Submissive in a D/s Dynamic Read More »
When Chris M. Lyon, a relationship consultant, and D/s expert, approached me with news of a virtual course, “The Path of the Submissive Partner,” made specifically for the submissive partner, I was intrigued to know what she had created. I’ve talked about how impressed I was by her book, “ Leading and Supportive Love,” in a review
Review of The Path of the Submissive Partner Virtual Course Read More »
This is a guest post by Bibi for the Day in the Life Series. Interested in sharing what a day in your life looks like? Email it to me! My name is Bibi. I am a Full-time Slave to Master Jimmy, and this is a day in my life. I am not a youngster and am
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If you didn’t catch it in the post about my Miracle Morning, I am without a collar. After 10 years in KnyghtMare’s collar, he asked for its return in mid-April. I was devastated, but I knew things were pretty bad off for quite some time. You might have picked that up from the Meditation Monday
Without His Collar: How This Happened and What I’m Learning About Myself Read More »
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Terms: Propositions, limitations or provisions stated or offered for the acceptance of another and determining the nature, scope, and conditions of the agreement. The ONE TRUE WAY: All submissives are created as equal
Submissive on Your Own Terms: Analyzing The One True Way Read More »
When you become submissive to someone, you could be afraid to lose who you were before the power exchange. I know I was afraid of changing too much when I began to identify as a slave instead of a submissive. Would I even recognize myself? Could I still be opinionated and silly, obsessed with Pentatonix
Afraid of Not Being Me Anymore: Transformation Without Fear Read More »
I’ve been a practicing submissive for roughly five years now; most of that time has been in a long distance capacity, but regardless, my role as a sub has played an integral part in shaping my role in my relationship with the person who is not only my Dominant, but (I hope) my life mate.
Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style Read More »
Submission is not passive or automatic, it is an intentional choice that evolves over time. This article explores how submission is tested through challenges, doubt, and growth, encouraging submissives to reflect on agency, resilience, and recommitment as part of a healthy, self-aware submissive journey.
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Submission often happens in quiet, everyday moments rather than dramatic scenes. This narrative follows a day in the life of a submissive, illustrating how service, communication, intention, and devotion can become part of daily routines while offering readers a realistic glimpse into a lived D/s dynamic.
A Day in the Life of a Submissive – Rife Read More »
No two submissives live their dynamics the same way. This guest feature offers a glimpse into one person’s everyday experience of submission, illustrating how routines, service, communication, and personal choices shape daily life while reminding readers that healthy submission is deeply individual.
A Day in the Life of a Submissive – cyberkittenXLS Read More »
Being independent doesn’t make you any less submissive. This personal reflection explores how self-sufficiency and submission can coexist, from maintaining control in everyday life to intentionally surrendering authority in agreed-upon areas. Learn why honesty about your needs, boundaries, and desired level of power exchange matters when building a D/s relationship.
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What can everyday submission look like when an ocean separates you from your Dominant? One submissive shares how emails, clothing choices, journaling, photos, shared activities, and daily routines help maintain service and connection across the distance while she balances her D/s relationship with work, parenting, and everyday responsibilities.
A Day in the Life of a Submissive – WKslittleone Read More »
Finding your authentic submissive self means looking beyond stereotypes and other people’s expectations. This reflective article explores discovering what submission genuinely means to you, accepting that your identity can change as you grow, and developing a stronger sense of self rather than trying to become someone else’s idea of the perfect submissive.
Finding Your Way to a Genuine Self Read More »
Shame and fear of judgment can make it difficult to embrace your submissive or kinky identity. One submissive shares her struggle with accepting submission, being a Little, and reconciling BDSM with her religious upbringing. Her reflection encourages readers to question outside judgment, let go of embarrassment, and move toward self-acceptance.
Be Not Ashamed – Accepting Who You Are and Where You Came From Read More »
Can you be assertive, independent, and naturally take charge while still being submissive? This article explores the difference between everyday personality and D/s identity, challenging the assumption that submissives must be passive or meek. A strong personality doesn’t determine the role you choose within your relationships or make your submission less genuine.
Dominant Personality with a Submissive Identity Read More »
