Full Question: Do you ever feel conflicted about being submissive and feminist?
Answer:
I believe that the feminist movement can move in parallel to what submission is to the D/s world. It’s about making choices, even if the choice is not to have any options. Hardcore feminism tries to state that any situation where the male-dominated society continues is not welcome. Thus, submission in a Male/female connotation would be the opposite of feminism. I can see that, but it’s not how feminism started. I respect all perspectives on this matter.
Again, it was about oppression, sure, but oppression of many things other than where a woman stands in a relationship. It was about breaking out of the social norms of the housewife, bringing them into a breadwinner role. It was about giving women the right to have jobs, typically for men only. The military opened up to women. All of these things gave women a choice.
So, what’s wrong with choosing submission? For feminists, it’s the idea that you want to be in the role they tried so hard to break free from. We can be the enemy, or we can be an example. I like being an example.
I’m an example of how feminism works. I can choose to be anything I want: get a job I want, live as a single mom without too much scorn, and make more money than my male counterparts (it can be hard still, but doable). Yet I choose to live at home, work at home, care for my man, and care for the family. That’s what I want to do.
So am I a feminist? Yes. Am I hard core? No.
Now, I’m eager to hear from you. Your thoughts on feminism and submission are important. Do you see them as conflicting or complementary? Your insights are valuable, so please share them in the comments below, and let’s keep this conversation going!
