Full Question: I am meeting a Dom for the first time…and am uncertain whether I should ask him if he has any preference in terms of what he’d like me to wear? I like him and would like very much to wear something that I know would please him…but I am acutely sensitive to the […]
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Full Question: How do I become more confident with dirty talk? Answer: Taking the first steps toward talking dirty isn’t an easy process. You have to deal with embarrassment, discomfort, and the fear that your partner will just laugh at you. It takes practice and repetition to learn to talk dirty when you aren’t confident
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Full Question: When and how do you negotiate with your partner? I want him to be happy, and I’m willing to make compromises; I just want to balance sticking to my own values. Answer: I think we all want our partners to be happy without sacrificing our own values and needs. Negotiating happens at the
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Full Question: I’m 27 now, but there was a guy I was crazy about at school. We never got together but talked for hours about everything, including kink. We lost touch for a few years, and now we have been talking again. When we met, we ended up kissing. Then he decided he didn’t want
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Full Question: What personality traits can I look for in a person to know if they are or could be Dominant? Answer: When you are looking for a Dominant to be in a power exchange relationship, you may wonder if there is a radar of some sort that will help you recognize them “out in
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Full Question: Please help. I’ve been so lost since my Master’s death. I feel so incomplete. Too many decisions, where’s my rules, where’s my life? How do I maintain my structure? I don’t know where to start, end or if I’m running in circles. Answer: I’m so sorry to hear of the death of your
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Full Question: After a lot of struggle and research and thought, it’s really clear to me that I’m sexually submissive. That’s what turns me on and how I am in intimate relationships. The problem is I don’t see how this would fit in the life I want. I always imagine a life where I’m the
I want to be queen of my castle, can I be submissive too? Read More »
Full Question: I met someone online, and he opened up to me about BDSM and him being a Dom. I had never even heard of the term before. Almost a year later, I still have a lot of questions unanswered. He wants us to meet, and so do I, but I’m scared. He says that
I’m very new, should I slow down? Read More »
Full Question: I’m a sub, and my wife is an amazing Domme, but she prefers not to do scenes as often as I would like. Is it unheard of to have a regular Domme that isn’t your partner? I feel like I need this more than she does, and to have an outlet to sub
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Full Question: My Dom and I have been together for three years. We are each other’s first when it comes to D/s, and we are learning and exploring together. Mostly, we have navigated and communicated our journey wonderfully. However, He opened up to me a few days after quite an extreme scene, where I cried
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Full Question: Do you think that someone can lose their submissive side? And how do they get it back? Answer: I feel if you identify as submissive, you can’t actually lose it, but you can lose sight of why you are submissive and what your focus in submission is. I get visibly angry at the
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Full Question: How do you safely enter this lifestyle without being scammed? Answer: You’ve got two pretty big questions here, and I’ll do my best to answer them. First, it makes sense to be safe when looking for a partner. We’ve gone to the mentality that instant compatibility is easy. Finding a compatible partner requires
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Full Question: How would I know if I am a submissive? Answer: Submission has been called a gift, a natural characteristic, and a choice. Some people find submission a natural way to live, and it comes to them easily and simply. Other submissives have to learn about submission step by step. When you feel you
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Full Question: I am a new sub to the BDSM scene. Since my partner and Dom recently learned that I like being submissive, he has encouraged me to look into the BDSM community. The one thing that concerns me is everything in D/s relationships seems to lead back to SM, and I am not a
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Full Question: I am a submissive female. I broke up with my boyfriend because he pushed me too far and I wasn’t in a position to slow him down. I have/had a safeword, but I wasn’t able to use it because I was umm . . . in a vulnerable position. What other ways are
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Full Question: What really are the differences between submissive and slave? Can you be one and then change your mind later? Answer: Types of submissives come in as many varieties as wines; there is one for every palette and preference. When someone tells you that you are submissive and you finally admit to yourself that
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Full Question: I met a new Master online, and we seemed to hit it off well. We saw each other in person twice. Then he just stopped replying to my texts. I asked if he had changed his mind about me, but he didn’t even respond to that. What does this mean? I don’t know
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Full Question: Lately, I’ve been noticing my Dominant softening up. He’s been acting like more of a boyfriend than a dominant, and I don’t know why. I’m afraid he may be losing interest in being my dominant. I’m not happy because it is something that I crave and need. I don’t know how to talk
Full Question: I am a submissive sissy with a Dom Daddy that likes to give me oral pleasure but I don’t like it. When he does it reminds me of my male side and turns me off! How can I explain to him how I wish he wouldn’t do that? Answer: It can be hard
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Full Question: Can the Dominant take control over ALL my life, even if I don’t want this? We are not in a 24/7 dynamic, it’s too much and they ask things I don’t wanna do. Answer: The simple answer here is no, a Dominant can not take control of anything that you’ve not negotiated beforehand.
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