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What are some ideas for keeping long-distance D/s engaged and spicy?

Full Question: What are some ideas for keeping long-distance D/s engaged and spicy? Answer:  Building an engaged long-distance D/s relationship takes a lot of patient work, but with some simple ideas, you can keep your relationship going with lots of connection and spicy play. First, a long-distance relationship will rely on a lot of communication,

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How do I avoid developing feelings for a Dominant that I’m not in a romantic relationship with?

Full Question: How can I avoid getting too attached to or developing romantic feelings for a Dominant with whom I’m not in a romantic relationship? Answer:  Whether you’re in a casual relationship with this Dominant or just a really good friend and are beginning to crush on them, trying to avoid developing feelings of love

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How do you take care of yourself during sub drop when your Dom isn’t available?

Full Question: How do you take care of yourself during sub drop when your dominant is either too busy with other things to be able to help you or experiencing dom drop themselves? Answer:  I can empathize! Managing sub drop on your own can be done and I recommend all submissives have a sub drop

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What is a punishment dynamic?

Full Question: Can you talk about punishment dynamics? What’s fair? What’s too much? How do you negotiate it? Answer: A punishment dynamic is a consensual agreement between partners that the Dominant one will watch and correct poor behavior in the submissive. This can be from following rules and particular instructions or used to break bad

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How can I approach a Dominant?

Full Question: How can I approach a Dominant? Answer:  Many submissives struggle to approach Dominants due to fear of not appearing submissive as the pursuer. However, it is possible to approach a Dominant with confidence. Here are some tips: Face-to-Face: Online: Overall, confidence, authenticity, and assertiveness are key when approaching Dominants, whether in person or

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How do you know when you’re ready to start sub training?

Full Question: How do you know when you’re ready to start sub-training? Answer:  It depends on what you consider submissive training.  First, let’s discuss what the word ‘training’ really means in a D/s dynamic setting. When you undergo training, what is really meant is that you are learning the mannerisms, behavior, attitude, and activities that

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How do I have a difficult conversation with my partner about my needs?

Full Question: [Trimmed for brevity.] I’m dating a guy who is my potential Dom. He doesn’t DO much of what he talks about. It feels like he’s becoming my kind-of-kinky boyfriend. That’s not what I want. We’ve talked about what I’m seeking & what he wants. In talks, it seems like a perfect match, but

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How do I ask my Dominant for what I want without sounding demanding?

Full Question: How do I ask my Dominant for what I want without sounding demanding? Answer:  First, communication is the only way your Dominant will know anything about what you want and need, so talking about those things is important to the health of your relationship and your submissive journey. Healthy communication styles require practice

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What is self-collaring?

Full Question: How do you feel about self-collaring? Answer:  I don’t think my personal opinion about self-collaring is necessary, but I would like to talk about what it is and why it can create conflict within the community (and it shouldn’t). A BDSM collar can have different meanings. It can show ownership, devotion, or submission.

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I have strong feelings for my new Dom, should I keep them secret?

Full Question: I’ve recently given myself to my first dom.  It’s an online LDR, but I feel deeply connected to him. we’ve only been talking for about a month, but I have very strong feelings toward him.  I’m not sure how deeply he feels for me. Should I separate myself from these feelings or embrace

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How do I feel connected with my Dominant the weeks we don’t see each other?

Full Question: How do I feel connected with my Dominant the weeks we don’t see each other? Answer:  It’s never easy to face being alone when you’d rather be spending time with your Dominant partner. Working on hobbies, hanging out with friends, and interacting with the BDSM community are great for distracting you and making

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