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You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

I first published this in Society of Janus’ Bi-monthly newsletter, I thought I’d share it with you as well. Exploring kink is full of exciting experiences and hormonal roller coasters. We manipulate adrenaline and endorphins to give us a pleasurable experience during play. Often without knowing how these hormones will impact us after the play […]

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Who Influences Your Submission?

By tequilarose / 5 minutes of reading

The other day, I found myself wondering who and what influences me with the decisions I make. The reason why I found myself pondering this is that I had begun to doubt myself and everything I believed and how I lived my life because of something someone had said about me. This person who had

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Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

By charmed-blyss / 7 minutes of reading

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read – Part I: Boundaries , Part II: Service, Part III: Slave Resume .

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Is It Healthy to Do Humiliation as Punishment?

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

Is it healthy to use humiliation as a punishment? I mean, it’s fun during scenes. You know it’s just play & you can always use your safe word if your Dominant hits you where it hurts. During punishments, you know your Dominant isn’t pleased with you, which is painful enough alone. That’s why you’re being

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Me vs the German Language – A Lesson in Patience

By tequilarose / 5 minutes of reading

This past year has just been a whirlwind of excitement for me. Moving to a new country to be with my Daddy and everything that comes with moving to a new country, adjusting to a new culture, a new way of life, and a new language. The biggest challenge of my move has been the

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After the Scene is Over – Clean-up, Aftercare, and Check-Ins

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

Your scene has just ended and you both feel spent, exhausted and buzzing with good feelings. And then you look around the room, move your aching limbs and start to come out of your or play-induced fog. The room is a mess, there are toys everywhere. Both of you need aftercare. Who does what? How

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A Slave’s Longing – Not Quite Frenzy

By charmed-blyss / 3 minutes of reading

I was going to do another Single in the Scene post, had been kicking it around, but then last week, I felt something else. And this week because this ‘something’ else is back, I’ve decided to go with this… A slave’s longing. A longing is not a frenzy, though it’s quite possible that the feeling

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How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

By ladysneak / 11 minutes of reading

Just how does one know how to move on after a relationship has come to an end, regardless of the reasons behind it? That is sometimes a confusing question for submissives to answer for themselves. Often a submissive will feel lost and all alone, as if they feel that no one will understand what they

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Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

I admit that I used to whisper tales of sub space and the other blissful states that I’ve been in as if they were magical golden hours of submission. I actually believed long ago that sub space is what made me a “real” submissive. Trust me, that bubble didn’t last long. Once it was popped

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Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

“How can I be the submissive he wants me to be?” “Can you give me advice on how to be the best submissive I can be?” “How do I know I’m going to be a good slave?” I get these questions all the time and they are a valid and reasonable concern. All of us

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Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

By Luna Carruthers / 5 minutes of reading

There are a few “sins” in the world of BDSM; ignoring a safe word and touching that which does not belong to you are a few examples. But, while both of these are bad, one might be able to look at a different point of view. Someone may ignore a safeword because their scene involves

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Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions?

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

My question is not so much specifically for a submissive, to be honest, i don’t know where to go about this. But after all i have read from you, Luna, i respect your opinions & views & thought you would be best to ask. I have noticed that in the last few years, so many of

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Work, Submission, and Me: The Rules That Keep It All Together

By kallista / 8 minutes of reading

Balancing professional life with submissive desires can be challenging. Discover practical rules and tips for working submissives to explore D/s dynamics while thriving in their careers.

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Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

By Luna Carruthers / 12 minutes of reading

There are things you can do to help you prevent some or all of the symptoms of sub drop. Taking care of yourself after you play is a personal responsibility that I wish more submissives would take upon themselves.

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This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

By tequilarose / 6 minutes of reading

I am a Tumblr whore. There’s no other way to describe it. I spend way too much time on there looking for pictures. Most of the pictures I re-blog and most of those who I follow post lifestyle related pictures. I am very particular about the pictures that I re-blog. The pictures that I post

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The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

By kallista / 4 minutes of reading

It’s no secret that having a working long distance relationship is a challenge, even under the most traditional circumstances, but when the dynamics of your relationship are dependent upon the delicate balance of give and take between Dominant and submissive, the potential challenges that you face increase tenfold. When you are unable to spend your

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Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

Our responsibilities as a submissive are important to be aware of. I’ve said a number of times in other articles that often novice submissives feel that once they are in a relationship they don’t have any responsibilities at all. That is far from true. Does that then mean that single submissives that play casually or

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Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

By charmed-blyss / 4 minutes of reading

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The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

By tequilarose / 4 minutes of reading

I am a product of the 80’s, which I think is the greatest decade, ever. I may be a bit partial with my thinking. The music, television, and especially the movies is what makes the 80’s such a memorable decade. One of my favorite movies from that era is “ The Princess Bride”. To me, that’s

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I’m a Shy Web Cam Model, Can That Be Detrimental to Finding a Dominant?

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

I’m very new to this lifestyle. I became interested in it because I work part time as a webcam model and found I really enjoyed doing as I was told. I am exploring online and trying to better understand what I like. However the Dominants I have encountered have issues with me. They don’t like

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