I admit that I used to whisper tales of sub space and the other blissful states that I’ve been in as if they were magical golden hours of submission. I actually believed long ago that sub space is what made me a “real” submissive. Trust me, that bubble didn’t last long. Once it was popped […]
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“How can I be the submissive he wants me to be?” “Can you give me advice on how to be the best submissive I can be?” “How do I know I’m going to be a good slave?” I get these questions all the time and they are a valid and reasonable concern. All of us
Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential Read More »
There are a few “sins” in the world of BDSM; ignoring a safe word and touching that which does not belong to you are a few examples. But, while both of these are bad, one might be able to look at a different point of view. Someone may ignore a safeword because their scene involves
Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler Read More »
My question is not so much specifically for a submissive, to be honest, i don’t know where to go about this. But after all i have read from you, Luna, i respect your opinions & views & thought you would be best to ask. I have noticed that in the last few years, so many of
Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions? Read More »
Balancing professional life with submissive desires can be challenging. Discover practical rules and tips for working submissives to explore D/s dynamics while thriving in their careers.
Work, Submission, and Me: The Rules That Keep It All Together Read More »
There are things you can do to help you prevent some or all of the symptoms of sub drop. Taking care of yourself after you play is a personal responsibility that I wish more submissives would take upon themselves.
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I am a Tumblr whore. There’s no other way to describe it. I spend way too much time on there looking for pictures. Most of the pictures I re-blog and most of those who I follow post lifestyle related pictures. I am very particular about the pictures that I re-blog. The pictures that I post
This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life Read More »
It’s no secret that having a working long distance relationship is a challenge, even under the most traditional circumstances, but when the dynamics of your relationship are dependent upon the delicate balance of give and take between Dominant and submissive, the potential challenges that you face increase tenfold. When you are unable to spend your
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Our responsibilities as a submissive are important to be aware of. I’ve said a number of times in other articles that often novice submissives feel that once they are in a relationship they don’t have any responsibilities at all. That is far from true. Does that then mean that single submissives that play casually or
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This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read – Part I: Boundaries and Part II: Service. Yeeees – there is a such thing as
Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume Read More »
I am a product of the 80’s, which I think is the greatest decade, ever. I may be a bit partial with my thinking. The music, television, and especially the movies is what makes the 80’s such a memorable decade. One of my favorite movies from that era is “ The Princess Bride”. To me, that’s
The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar Read More »
I’m very new to this lifestyle. I became interested in it because I work part time as a webcam model and found I really enjoyed doing as I was told. I am exploring online and trying to better understand what I like. However the Dominants I have encountered have issues with me. They don’t like
I’m a Shy Web Cam Model, Can That Be Detrimental to Finding a Dominant? Read More »
The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this
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When fantasies abound about slavery they often go something like this: The slave is always nude, chained or caged waiting for the Master to decide what to do with them. They make no decisions themselves, the Master declares that he will tell them when to eat, sleep and piss. The slave has no mind of
Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged? Read More »
The words “scene report” always have me first thinking of a crime scene and second of a BDSM scene report. Scene reports can often be requested by some Dominants especially in the early stages of a play relationship. I’m going to cover what they are, how to write one and how they help you and
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Falling in love is easy, so is falling out of love-especially when it is the love of a toy. One of the assignments that I assign to the people I mentor involves this occurrence. When I came into the lifestyle, I had two main loves-rope and floggers. To me, there was nothing better than getting to
Finding a New Love – The Impact of Time on Your BDSM Checklist Read More »
Master and i have been together about a year (known each other for many more). He recently began expressing a desire for a threesome. Because of past experiences, i have very serious issues with this. i have, of course, shared these issues with Master. Unfortunately, this is something He very much wants. i told Him
What Do I Do When He Says “Have A Threesome or I’m Leaving”? Read More »
Like anyone else who’s walking the submissive path, I struggle from time to time. Maybe more times than I really care to admit. There are times where Daddy asks things of me, that I don’t quite want to do or I feel like I don’t have a submissive bone in my body and that makes
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Once you reach a level of comfort with your kinky desires it may be time to go to a BDSM convention. A BDSM convention is much like a convention for any other activity. It is held in a hotel or large convention center with classes and seminars to choose from. There are vendors selling wares
Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget Read More »
Today’s question is about handling when the D/s is shelved due to external (or internal) stress. Hi Luna, I wanted to ask you about when a relationship is going through a rough patch, and neither partner can seem to find it within them to fulfill their previous D/s roles. My Sir is dealing with a
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