Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules, and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them? KnyghtMare and I run a structured relationship. I expect rules and limits to my submission to him. It
30 Days of Submission: Day 9 – Structure, Rules and Rituals Aplenty Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you switch into a dominant role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought
30 Days of Submission: Day 4 – Itching to Switch Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! How do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive? How do you feel when you express your submission? I covered a bit in day one that I discovered submission through Yahoo conversations with Dominants
30 Days of Submission: Day 3 – That Submissive Feeling Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are
30 Days of Submission: Day 2 – Who has my submission? Read More »
As I shared with you last week I am doing Nanowrimo this month so I’m focusing my writing there. While I’m away I have prepared an interesting series for Submissive Guide. This is the first of 30 days where you all get to learn a little bit (or a lot) about me. I’m going to
30 Days of Submission Challenge: Day 1 – Labeling My Submission Read More »
During this past MsC (the Master/slave Conference) in September, there was a discussion about being an unowned slave at an event and the downside of such. And before then, I had participated in a discussion on FetLife – more of an open dialogue between the owned and the unowned about the tension between the two
Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave Read More »
Last week I let you know that I was going to be participating in National Novel Writing Month for the 3rd year to produce content for Submissive Guide. I will be writing like a mad woman throughout the month of November and because of that, wanted a break from writing for the site during Nanowrimo.
November’s Special Series – lunaKM’s 30 Days of Submission Read More »
I try to share a new book with you every other month. I’m still reading the book I had planned for this month so I thought I’d open the floor for you to let me know what you think of a book you’ve read. If you’ve cozied up with a book recently and want to
Have you Read a Good BDSM-Related Book Recently? Send Me a Review! Read More »
Not that long ago, I found myself reading an article on Dominant Guide written by Morgan, who is the leading contributor but also an absolutely amazing woman. I’m not bragging about this article because I love the author, but because of what she was writing about. For those of you who haven’t clicked the hyperlink above, I highly suggest
Nobody’s Perfect-Including Your Dominant! Read More »
I’m often stunned by the amount of mail I get from submissives telling me that they thought submission was going to be easy; that they could stop worrying about life, give up all responsibility and just serve someone else’s whims. The fantasy was strong with these men and women and I hate bursting people’s bubbles
Why is Submission So Hard! Read More »
This is a guest post by kaya of Under His Hand. I tend to think of my particular brand of masochism like a chronic illness. Like, say, the diabeetus. (Some) people who have diabetes have to stab themselves with needles regularly. They have to take shots and watch their diet, and they do these things,
The Curse of Masochism Read More »
As a submissive or slave, there are a lot of things our owners give to us. To me, two important things that owners can give to their property is a collar of ownership and an orgasm and I was reminded of the second gift while reading. This is the next in my series of passages
Orgasm Control: The Master’s Gift of Orgasm Read More »
Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group. We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact, KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible? Read More »
Ever since realizing my role in the lifestyle, I have been faced with a lot of …decisions that I’ve had to make. In some instances, I’ve had no issues with making those decisions. But then there are those instances where the decisions I’ve had to make, aren’t always so easy to make. I’ve had to
Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side Read More »
Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. Trying to force your desires on your partner can come as a shock, and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind, it could end badly.
Navigating the Challenges of a Vanilla Partner in a Kink World Read More »
I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works before
The Longing of Being Owned Read More »
The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship. It is, of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection. We all know that the path of submission is
Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself Read More »
I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals
Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability Read More »
This is a guest post by Slave Kelly. Paralysis of analysis became a well-known phrase when used by Martin Luther King, Jr., during the Civil Rights Movement. However, this human phenomenon has been documented for centuries. Paralysis of analysis occurs when one over-thinks an issue, or situation, to the point where the ability to act
Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission Read More »
I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink Read More »
