Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? Why or why not? Looking back on yesterday’s post on discipline and punishment you’d think that there would a large component of spanking or other corporal punishment but there […]
30 Days of Submission: Day 8 – Corporal Punishment Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? How do you feel about it? Discipline and punishment are a small part of our dynamic. KnyghtMare prefers not to have to discipline me, but
30 Days of Submission: Day 7 – Accepting Punishment Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! What do you feel are the roots of your submission? Do you think it has something to do with childhood? Is it a relationship management tool as in the practice of domestic discipline? Is it a sexual thrill or
30 Days of Submission: Day 6 – The Root of My Submission Read More »
At first, I originally had something else planned for my next article, but for some reason, the word confidence keeps going through my mind. Not one of those normal passing thoughts, but one of those thoughts that keep lingering and I can’t shake to save my life. So, I figured the only way to clear my
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about
30 Days to Submission: Day 5 – Counting and Comparing Relationships Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules, and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them? KnyghtMare and I run a structured relationship. I expect rules and limits to my submission to him. It
30 Days of Submission: Day 9 – Structure, Rules and Rituals Aplenty Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you switch into a dominant role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought
30 Days of Submission: Day 4 – Itching to Switch Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! How do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive? How do you feel when you express your submission? I covered a bit in day one that I discovered submission through Yahoo conversations with Dominants
30 Days of Submission: Day 3 – That Submissive Feeling Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are
30 Days of Submission: Day 2 – Who has my submission? Read More »
As I shared with you last week I am doing Nanowrimo this month so I’m focusing my writing there. While I’m away I have prepared an interesting series for Submissive Guide. This is the first of 30 days where you all get to learn a little bit (or a lot) about me. I’m going to
30 Days of Submission Challenge: Day 1 – Labeling My Submission Read More »
During this past MsC (the Master/slave Conference) in September, there was a discussion about being an unowned slave at an event and the downside of such. And before then, I had participated in a discussion on FetLife – more of an open dialogue between the owned and the unowned about the tension between the two
Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave Read More »
Last week I let you know that I was going to be participating in National Novel Writing Month for the 3rd year to produce content for Submissive Guide. I will be writing like a mad woman throughout the month of November and because of that, wanted a break from writing for the site during Nanowrimo.
November’s Special Series – lunaKM’s 30 Days of Submission Read More »
I try to share a new book with you every other month. I’m still reading the book I had planned for this month so I thought I’d open the floor for you to let me know what you think of a book you’ve read. If you’ve cozied up with a book recently and want to
Have you Read a Good BDSM-Related Book Recently? Send Me a Review! Read More »
Not that long ago, I found myself reading an article on Dominant Guide written by Morgan, who is the leading contributor but also an absolutely amazing woman. I’m not bragging about this article because I love the author, but because of what she was writing about. For those of you who haven’t clicked the hyperlink above, I highly suggest
Nobody’s Perfect-Including Your Dominant! Read More »
I’m often stunned by the amount of mail I get from submissives telling me that they thought submission was going to be easy; that they could stop worrying about life, give up all responsibility and just serve someone else’s whims. The fantasy was strong with these men and women and I hate bursting people’s bubbles
Why is Submission So Hard! Read More »
This is a guest post by kaya of Under His Hand. I tend to think of my particular brand of masochism like a chronic illness. Like, say, the diabeetus. (Some) people who have diabetes have to stab themselves with needles regularly. They have to take shots and watch their diet, and they do these things,
The Curse of Masochism Read More »
As a submissive or slave, there are a lot of things our owners give to us. To me, two important things that owners can give to their property is a collar of ownership and an orgasm and I was reminded of the second gift while reading. This is the next in my series of passages
Orgasm Control: The Master’s Gift of Orgasm Read More »
Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group. We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact, KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible? Read More »
Ever since realizing my role in the lifestyle, I have been faced with a lot of …decisions that I’ve had to make. In some instances, I’ve had no issues with making those decisions. But then there are those instances where the decisions I’ve had to make, aren’t always so easy to make. I’ve had to
Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side Read More »
Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. Trying to force your desires on your partner can come as a shock, and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind, it could end badly.
Navigating the Challenges of a Vanilla Partner in a Kink World Read More »
