People often misunderstand how relationship communication works because they may have had such poor examples or think that coercing or manipulating someone is par for the course. You don’t want to tease someone, push them to get angry or jealous with you in hopes that the ensuing fight ends with hot and steamy makeup sex
Five Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Manipulate Your Vanilla Man into Being a Dominant Read More »
Most adults over the age of 21 already know that a trip to Las Vegas can yield any number of experiences, mostly depending on what you’re looking for. Las Vegas is one of the few places in the world where you can literally say “anything is possible.” It’s a fun place for singles, couples, and
Road Trip: Taking your D/s Relationship to Fantastic Las Vegas! Read More »
This is a guest post by moonlight. Many of us love our kinky toys and the collection just keeps growing the longer you are in the community. Floggers, canes, crops, clothespins, candles, you name it. If you look around my house, those aren’t the toys you will see – it looks more like an explosion
These Aren’t Your Toys! Child-Proofing For Your BDSM Toys Read More »
Today’s newsletter is going to be a light and fun one, I hope. I’ve done some work to find jokes and funny stories with a BDSM or sexual slant to them. Not everything we do in BDSM is serious. Here’s a story, told by my Master KnyghtMare. It’s a true story. The AC Was Broken…
Humor in BDSM – Jokes, Funny Tales, and When the AC Was Broken Read More »
Every December as the holidays wane, we start thinking about New Year’s resolutions and ways to make our lives better. The New Year is a fresh start and optimism is contagious. For submissives, though, resolutions mean so much more. Frankly, I’ve decided that the world would be a better place if everyone had a Dom/me
A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Goal Setting in a D/s or M/s Dynamic Read More »
I’ve noticed a lot of questions in FetLife recently (and almost always) about how to maintain the mindset in a 24/7 relationship. I’ve not responded to these there because I’ve created this article as my reply. The advice that the people have received may or may not help them. My thoughts on the subject are
The Myth of the 24/7 Submissive Mindset (and Why So Many of Us Struggle) Read More »
This is a guest post by Shahjahani a personal friend and Hospice Nurse. “Grief is a journey, not something you get over” Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Grief can be experienced for many reasons, not just the loss of a loved one. Grief is not just related to the loss of a person’s physical presence. Grief
7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death Read More »
Pride, Merriam-Webster: Pride is a slippery emotion that I believe many a slave deal with, even if we don’t recognize it. I’m not talking about the feeling of elation and accomplishment after a job well done or when we’ve been recognized and given kudos. But, there is this thing; this lapse in judgment that many
Note To Self: Selfish Pride Comes Before A Fall Read More »
This is a guest post from Slave Dove. I am unsure where it originated, but am sharing it here from a now defunct website. These dinners are what many would view as a “scene” but they are not play parties. No one is available for physical “use” it is formal Old Guard Domination and submission at
Master’s Banquet – A formal D/s Feast Read More »
When I first discovered my submissive side, Sir gave me a BDSM checklist to fill out. It was a spreadsheet over six pages long with categories such as sex, bondage, S&M, role-playing, and toys. The columns include basic yes/no/maybe options, as well as soft/hard limit and “only with Sir.” The list was so comprehensive and
A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Reviewing and Updating your Checklist Read More »
This is a guest post by Erika McLean. My kids get up at just about 6 am like clockwork every day. They tend to wander out in the middle of the night into the living room because they’ve had a nightmare. Anyone who has kids is going to recognize this as how your own life works. Anyone who
When the Walls Have Ears – 5 Strategies for D/s and BDSM Play with Kids Around Read More »
This is a guest post by kaya of Underhishand.com. For Master. When I used to say “Oh I want someone who can push me… who doesn’t stop when I say stop… who does what they want and aren’t guided by MY reactions”, I can honestly say that I never believed such a person existed. I
Accepting Fear through Obedience Read More »
I often get the question about how I can be submissive all the time, that I must have other responsibilities that should take precedence on occasion and submission is often turned off. I can understand where these questions are coming from but for me, submission isn’t what I do, it’s who I am. It’s much
Everyone Needs a Break, Right – Do you Break from Submission? Read More »
Ever since the advent of the Internet, people have been hooking up via technology. A whole new world opened up for people who were shy, not a part of a smaller community or felt like they couldn’t find a date anywhere. For many people who date online, they will say that being anonymous and looking
Write an Online BDSM Dating Profile That Gets Results! Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is your need to submit being met? If not, or if your situation changed, do you think that you could continue in your life and still be happy/content if you were never able to express your submission in the
30 Days of Submission: Day 30 – What Makes Submission Special? Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is pain or humiliation (spankings for example) a part of your submission? What is your relationship to it? Do you embrace it as a part of your submission, tolerate it as necessary or have some other type of relationship
30 Days of Submission: Day 29 – BDSM in the Relationship Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Has your submission ever let you down? Have you ever been criticized for your submission? Have you ever regretted being or feeling submissive in a moment or in a relationship? Have you ever looked back and realized you made
30 Days of Submission: Day 28 – Negativity about Submission Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you have submissive desires or fantasies that you have yet to be able to explore? Do some of your desires confuse or frighten you? Do they excite you? I have sexual fantasies but I have to say that
30 Days of Submission: Day 27 – Fantasies Waiting Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! What are the qualities you seek in a dominant partner and why? Are some qualities deal-breakers as in “must” haves or “must not” have? When I was looking for a Dominant I wasn’t really sure what I was looking
30 Days of Submission: Day 26 – Qualities of My Ideal Dominant Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Are there items, objects or rituals that represent or help you express submission? If not, have you ever thought of adding or being gifted one? Is there a special significance to these objects or rituals? My relationship is full
30 Days of Submission: Day 25 – Rituals of Submission Read More »
