Last week, I was asked, “How do you find a balance?” about “M/s and life.” I couldn’t answer at first because I honestly didn’t know what to say. That question will always have such an individualized answer. What is right and balanced for me might be unfulfilling or overwhelming for another, so how could I […]
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. One of the most talked about features of the BDSM community is the existence and usage of the Safe Word or Safe Call or Safe Sign. For a new Dominant and new sub
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Now that we’ve covered the list of supplies and talked about what might be lovely additions to the shave service itself, it’s time to take you through the steps of how to give a relaxing sensual shave service that will have your Dominant craving it every single time they need a shave. Since I do not have experience
Step By Step How-To for the Perfect Hot Towel Shave Experience Read More »
This is a guest article by Melissa Tilghman. BDSM is one of the best ways to spice up sex life! If you’re reading this post, you might have already completed the beginner’s guide to BDSM and know the whole shooting match. And as an experienced lady, you’d like to continue those sweet games in the bedroom despite
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When you want to make a shave the special experience it can be, you need to start with a basic supply list. As you get more experienced and if you want a more in-depth service you can add a few more items to your repertoire. If you missed the first part of this series, The Ultimate
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As a submissive, we are often bombarded with people telling us that we have to know our wants and needs; from when we first start out, to when we find a relationship, from when we start struggling with this or that, to exploring something new. Wants and needs are quite important. But what’s also important
One of the more intimate things you can do for your Dominant partner is to help care for their body in some way. Personal grooming service is pretty popular for submissives who are into service because it allows you to get up close and personal with your Dominant. If your Dominant has facial hair, a
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Discipline – To teach or train, to make a convert of, more directly to make a disciple of. It is an action made in the interest of order, rule, or control. A disciple is
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. The Formal Collar (frequently called the Slave Collar) is the representation of the final stage of commitment between the Dominant and submissive. This collar is offered after the Dominant and submissive have progressed
This is a guest post by the authors of Spices of Lust. In the world of BDSM, always be careful when someone says “true” or “right” when describing anything — because there is no one right way for anything. When we say we can help you find the “right” BDSM collar — we mean the right one for
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One of the most daunting things we do in our life is knowing you want to change or need to change. We all aspire to improve our lives and wish to take on the challenge to make those changes, but quickly we’ll realize that motivation is the key to that change. You can’t become a
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. You have gorged. Years have passed from that first moment of recognition of self. Over those years you have explored different people and situations. Peeked inside of places you may have decided just
Beyond the Kink Buffet: When You’re Ready for a Lifetime Partner Read More »
It’s very easy to get overwhelmed and have far too much to do with what feels like no time to do it. I’ve also been caught up with waiting until the last moment to do something when I knew about it for a lot longer. That pressure is not healthy! But there are steps we
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Uniqueness is underrated. Everyone wants to be like everyone else, are comparing themselves to others in order to fit in, but it’s the fun little unique aspects of a relationship that make it special. Kindling those unique things is especially important for me in a mono-poly and likely most other relationships. Every relationship is unique
Writing a letter to your future self is a common journaling practice to help you see how happy you are in the present moment, but the writing a letter to your past self is equally helpful. While you can’t save this for you to read later, the exercise is still beneficial, especially if you’re feeling
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I think we’ve all done it. We’ve set a goal for ourselves or we have a big project that we want to accomplish and then, within a few weeks or months we feel overwhelmed with the whole thing and want to give up. So, we set that goal again later that year because we’d really
Don’t Let Your Big Goals Intimidate You: Break Them Into Smaller Steps Read More »
It’s time for a celebration on the site! This year is Submissive Guide’s tenth anniversary! It’s going to be another great year here on the site and I’m ready to celebrate this milestone with you. Today we’re looking back at the top articles on the site but keep an eye on the site for further
Celebrate 10 YEARS of Submissive Guide With The Top 20 Articles of All Time Read More »
The last time we were doing some solo-coaching here on Submissive Guide we had just gotten started trying to learn what coaching is and how to hold meetings with yourself, journal your thoughts and understand your current goals. I even bundled it up into an ebook if you want the whole first series. Solo Coaching
Are You Ready for More Solo-Coaching? Check Out Where Your Journey Will Progress Next! Read More »
I was raised to say “please,” “thank you,” and apologize if I did something wrong. This politeness is ingrained in us as children. Being polite serves as a way to express empathy and respect for others. However, the phrase “I’m sorry,” has become a reflex rather than a meaningful expression. Many of us use it
Breaking the Apology Habit: Alternatives to Overusing ‘I’m Sorry’ Read More »
Safety comes in many forms and at any level of risk awareness. One of the very first things you learn when you encounter BDSM is the use of safewords. Even this site has numerous articles covering the basics of safewords. But now, I feel it’s time to gather everything together and really dig deep into
What You Don’t Know About Using Safewords Could Harm You – Get The Facts Read More »
