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This category provides practical advice and techniques for enhancing submission, from developing your skills to obedience and service to maintaining discipline and self-care.

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 7 of 7) – In Closing

This entry is part 23 of 35 in the series Rituals, Rules and Protocol

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. In summary — play nice. BDSM is about playing games, and in the best games everyone has fun. Further Reading and Sources This article is only meant to be a […]

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 6 of 7) – A Few Notes on High Protocol

This entry is part 22 of 35 in the series Rituals, Rules and Protocol

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. High Protocol in Perspective “i can’t get all involved in what is ‘protocol’ and what is not… good grief, relationships are hard enough… i frankly just prefer to please my

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 5 of 7) – Flagging, Symbols, and Rituals

This entry is part 21 of 35 in the series Rituals, Rules and Protocol

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Flagging not Flogging Flagging refers to non-verbal signals that serve as very specific cues in the scene. Most of them originated from the Gay leather scene of the 40’s and

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) – Play Parties

This entry is part 20 of 35 in the series Rituals, Rules and Protocol

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Three Types of Parties Play parties — or dungeon parties — are parties where people in the Leather and BDSM scene can go to play, socialize, and watch. There are

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 3 of 7) – Cruising With Class

This entry is part 19 of 35 in the series Rituals, Rules and Protocol

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Expectations of Sex BDSM is not always about sex. BDSM is not synonymous with swinging, swapping, or Polyamory — although it’s possible for it to co-exist with these lifestyles. A

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 2 of 7) – More Specific Guidelines

This entry is part 18 of 35 in the series Rituals, Rules and Protocol

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Ambrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Did you miss part 1? Read it Now. Socializing & Networking Socializing takes place at muches, general meetings, runs, and parties. Munches are semi-public gatherings of BDSM enthusiasts for the purpose

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

This entry is part 17 of 35 in the series Rituals, Rules and Protocol

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Good Manners vs. Correct Protocol “Manners are of more importance than laws. Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, barbarize or refine us, by a

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31 Days to Submissive Journaling – Day 14: Finding Your Voice

This entry is part 14 of 31 in the series 31 Days of Submissive Journaling

When I assign a writing task to my students, the two predominant questions that I receive are “What do I write?” and “How do I write it?” If you’re not familiar with the writing process, the task of writing in a journal or using a blog has probably provoked the same two questions for you;

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Submissive Journals: Bullet/Analogue Journal Review

My Dom and I have been living together in 3-6 month increments for the last two years now, and over that time, we’ve developed/are developing a bit of a routine which centers predominantly on my taking up a housewife/secretarial role in our relationship. I’m in charge of the majority of domestic tasks, including the organization

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How I Started a Simple BDSM Protocol, and How You Can Too!

This entry is part 6 of 35 in the series Rituals, Rules and Protocol

I didn’t always consider myself a slave with protocol. I’ve been with KnyghtMare for over 10 years and it’s been a journey of discovery the whole way. The idea of protocol and ritual to enhance our relationship came about in fits and starts, in small suggestions and ideas but it has grown. And that’s the

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31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Do Coupons Really Save You Money?

This entry is part 24 of 24 in the series 31 Days to Better Domestic Service

Coupons and couponing have been given a bad wrap with the reality TV shows that show extreme coupon users. I know I’ve sat in awe of the people who use hundreds of coupons for their grocery order and somehow get their purchase to mere cents. Of course what they aren’t sharing in the TV show

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31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Shop in Season to Maximize Savings

This entry is part 23 of 24 in the series 31 Days to Better Domestic Service

By now you should have a handle on your stockpile, meal plan and understand how to use a price book. Today we’ll cover shopping in season. When we talk about shopping in season it often relates to produce but that’s not the only thing that has a season. What other things can you think of

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31 Days To Better Domestic Service: What is a Grocery Price Book and How Can It Help Me?

This entry is part 22 of 24 in the series 31 Days to Better Domestic Service

How often has this scenario happened to you? You make a quick trip to your favorite grocery store. You buy two items from your list: a head of lettuce and a can of diced tomatoes. The store was out of sour cream, so you decide to swing by another store on the way home, a

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31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Pre-Planning For Quick and Easy, Last Minute and “I Don’t Know What To Cook” Days

This entry is part 21 of 24 in the series 31 Days to Better Domestic Service

Some days I just don’t know what to cook. Even if I’ve made a meal plan, I sometimes don’t feel like fixing it or I forgot to thaw the protein. So, my go to are pantry dinners. These are dinners that you can whip together with the ingredients you always have on hand. The ingredients

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31 Days To Better Domestic Service: How Cooking From Scratch Can Save You Money

This entry is part 20 of 24 in the series 31 Days to Better Domestic Service

Continuing on the path to better domestic service by way of saving money we’re going to talk about cooking from scratch. Don’t get all panicky yet. I don’t meant to scratch cook everything – as no one has that much time anymore. But there are a few things that will definitely save you money  if

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31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Creating a Stockpile – A Buffer For Any Size Home

This entry is part 19 of 24 in the series 31 Days to Better Domestic Service

I know what I was thinking when I first heard that a stockpile could save me money. How could having more of somethings be cheaper? There’s just the two of us, why would I need 10 packs of toilet paper? But I learned pretty quickly that a stockpile is only as large as needed for

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31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Developing a Meal Plan for the Budget Conscious Cook

This entry is part 18 of 24 in the series 31 Days to Better Domestic Service

Whether you’ve been preparing meals for your family for years, or you are just starting out in a place on your own, one of the best ways to save money and sanity in the kitchen is to plan your meals.  Meal planning is an important skill for the organized budget-conscious domestic submissive because not only

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31 Days To Better Domestic Service: Home Management Journal Showcase

This entry is part 17 of 24 in the series 31 Days to Better Domestic Service

We’re over half way through the month’s series on improving your domestic skills and I’m so proud of the progress you all have made! Today is all about you. I’d like you to share your progress with us. You can share images of your physical home management journal, screenshots of your digital one or even

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