Littles come in many forms, and there is no age or body size requirement for identifying as one. This article explores littlespace as an identity and form of self-expression, challenging harmful myths and encouraging inclusivity, self-acceptance, and personal authenticity within healthy, consensual dynamics.
Being a Little Doesn’t Come with a Size or Age Limitation Read More »
Power exchange is only one aspect of BDSM. This article explores the broader elements that shape BDSM relationships and play, including communication, trust, intimacy, sensation, and connection, helping readers understand kink as a multifaceted experience rather than a single dynamic or structure.
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Power exchange can be a deeply positive force in a relationship when built on trust and communication. This article reflects on how consensual power exchange strengthened connection, improved emotional awareness, and fostered growth, offering insight into how D/s dynamics can support healthier, more intentional relationships.
Transformed: How Power Exchange Changed Us For The Better Read More »
BDSM relationships don’t all follow the same emotional rules. This article explores the idea of “strings” versus “no strings” in BDSM, examining expectations, boundaries, communication, and emotional responsibility to help readers navigate casual and committed dynamics with clarity and consent.
BDSM Relationships: Strings or no-Strings Read More »
Life doesn’t pause for power exchange. This article explores how Master/slave relationships can navigate serious health challenges, grief, and loss with compassion, adaptability, and care, emphasizing that flexibility, communication, and humanity are essential to sustaining M/s dynamics through difficult seasons.
M/s and When Life Happens: Dealing With Health Challenges and Death Read More »
Differences in sexual desire are common and don’t mean a relationship is broken. This article explores how partners can cope with mismatched sex drives through communication, empathy, and realistic expectations, helping maintain connection and intimacy without shame, pressure, or resentment.
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The 1950s Head of Household style of power exchange often sparks curiosity and debate in the BDSM community. This article examines what the dynamic really means, how it differs from other traditions, and why it appeals to some couples. A reflective look at structure, tradition, and submission in modern relationships.
An Overview of 1950’s Head of Household Style Power Exchange Read More »
Submissives often struggle to express their sexual needs, but those needs matter as much as a Dominant’s. This article explores why communication is vital, how to speak up without guilt, and why ignoring your desires can harm intimacy. A reminder that healthy power exchange requires mutual respect and open dialogue.
Why Your Sexual Needs Matter in a D/s Relationship (or ANY Relationship) Read More »
Healthy dominance develops with trust, communication, and time. This article explores the dangers of rushing power exchange, examining why some Dominants push for speed and how that urgency can become a red flag, helping submissives recognize pressure, protect themselves, and prioritize safety and discernment.
The Need for Speed – The Desperation of Some Dominants Read More »
In a poly triad, feeling like a “third wheel” can cause frustration and hurt—especially when one partner leans on marital status for power. This article explores how to address conflict, express concerns, and work with your Dominant to restore balance and equality within the dynamic.
Poly Conflict: Feeling Like a Third Wheel in a Triad Read More »
Many kink-identified adults struggle with the question of whether kink and parenting can coexist. This article explores how to balance being kinky and being a parent with healthy boundaries, privacy, and self-compassion, challenging shame while emphasizing responsibility, consent, and intentional separation between roles.
How to Deal With the Question of Being Kinky and a Parent Read More »
Searching for a compatible partner can be frustrating and overwhelming. Using the metaphor of apartment hunting, this article explores how patience, priorities, and realistic expectations play a role in finding a kink-compatible partner, helping readers approach dating and connection with clarity, self-awareness, and less self-blame.
How Searching for a Compatible Partner is Like Apartment Hunting Read More »
A well-written BDSM dating profile can make the difference between meaningful connections and constant frustration. This article explores how to write a successful BDSM dating profile by communicating desires, boundaries, and expectations clearly, helping readers attract compatible partners while avoiding common pitfalls and misunderstandings.
The Secrets to Writing a Successful BDSM Dating Profile Read More »
Life rarely goes according to plan, and unexpected events can challenge even well-established M/s dynamics. This article explores how Master/slave relationships can adapt to sudden changes with flexibility, communication, and care, emphasizing that resilience, humanity, and mutual support are essential when life interrupts power exchange.
M/s and When Life Happens: Unexpected Happenings Read More »
Do you feel addicted to your Dominant when you’re apart? You’re not alone. This article explores why submissives can experience obsession, longing, and withdrawal, and how love chemicals like oxytocin and dopamine play a role. Find reassurance and perspective on whether your intense feelings are healthy and normal.
I Feel Addicted to My Dominant, Is This Normal? Read More »
Moving into a long-distance relationship can feel uncertain and destabilizing, especially within D/s dynamics. This article explores how to prepare for and navigate the transition to long distance with intention, communication, and emotional grounding, helping partners adjust expectations and maintain connection during change.
Eight Miles – Looking For a Smooth Transition for Long Distance Relationships Read More »
When I started learning about submission it had nothing to do with “lifestyle” or “relationships” or “24/7”. It was about feeding a desire. Sure, much of that was masochistic play but not all of it. So, when I met people and they were saying they were lifestyle submissives or in 24/7 relationships I looked at
Learning To Be a 24/7 Submissive Is Like… Read More »
This is a guest post by Mina Button. She has written for Submissive Guide previously and you can find her writing here. When I first heard about the idea of mono/poly, a relationship in which one partner is monogamous and the other partner isn’t, I thought it could never possibly work. Well, maybe it could work
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I admit that it’s been over a decade since I was in a long distance relationship, but I know that even with that thought, the complexities of a long distance relationship are still a common part of what I deal with on a daily basis in responding to emails from you. I can never forget
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This is a guest post by Tilari of ServiceSubmissive.com Service in a power exchange dynamic can be a very intense and involved experience, especially when you’re in a 24/7 dynamic and “always on.” You have a to-do list that is starting to hit triple digits, you’re pretty sure you hung the floggers up on the clothesline instead
How to Keep Yourself From Being Overwhelmed in a Service Dynamic Read More »
