Your submissive journey is also a path to self-discovery. In this category, you’ll find resources and reflections to help you grow emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
Saying ‘no’ is a powerful act of self-respect, even in submission. Learn how to honor yourself, set boundaries, and embrace the empowerment that comes with maintaining autonomy as a submissive.
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As submissives, we constantly learn and explore ourselves and the activities that bring us closer to our inner peace. We question our thoughts, ask deep questions, and look for answers. It’s part of what makes us so amazing, right? We are fueled by the passion to submit and serve. While exploring desires, setting boundaries, and
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Full Question: What are some ways to satisfy your need to submit if you aren’t with a Dominant? Answer: I do believe that you can feel submissive without a Dominant, but it’s not easy. There are things you can do to help focus submissive energy in almost everything you do. First, there is no direct
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Imagine being submerged underwater, the pressure building in your ears, the air squeezing out of your lungs, and the darkness closing around you. It’s a terrifying sensation that can leave you feeling helpless and desperate for a lifeline. The experience of submissive burnout is similar – you feel like you’re drowning in expectations, responsibilities, or
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Full Question: Can you have more than one submissive trait? Answer: First, I’d like to say that this question is a bit ambiguous. I will try to answer the question as I interpret it, but if this is your question and I didn’t answer it in the way you wanted, please contact me. Submissives come
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Full Question: What’s the difference between submissive and slave? Answer: I’ve been hanging on to this question for a while, because while I have a viewpoint, labels and definitions in BDSM often have contention to them. There is no one definition for these terms within the BDSM and kink lifestyle. It’s individually defined. Generally, people
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Full Question: Do you ever feel conflicted about being submissive and feminist? Answer: I believe that the feminist movement can move in parallel to what submission is to the D/s world. It’s about making choices, even if the choice is not to have any options. Hardcore feminism tries to state that any situation where the
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Full Question: What’s a good way to bring up your BDSM interests to see if a counselor or therapist is accepting of kink? Answer: I understand how you would want to find a therapist who understands and accepts alternative relationships and sexuality so that you have a safe space for your therapy. As with any
How do you find a kink-friendly therapist? Read More »
Exploring new perspectives within the intimate world of BDSM dynamics can lead to a richer and more fulfilling experience. Today, I propose we embark on a unique journey that intertwines submission with the concept of the Seven Heavenly Virtues. We’ll delve into the history of these virtues, uncovering their origins and significance, and then consider
From Patience to Kindness: The Virtuous Path of Submission Read More »
Full Question: How do you feel about self-collaring? Answer: I don’t think my personal opinion about self-collaring is necessary, but I would like to talk about what it is and why it can create conflict within the community (and it shouldn’t). A BDSM collar can have different meanings. It can show ownership, devotion, or submission.
What is self-collaring? Read More »
Full Question: Can you give me some advice to handle better the transition period of getting rules and structure and sticking to it? Answer: Learning new behaviors and habits will always be a challenge, and that’s what rules and structure are from your Dominant partner. So, if you attack them like any other goal, it
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Full Question: What are some ways to satisfy your need to submit if you aren’t with a Dominant? Answer: It takes some thought, that’s for sure. I suggest you start with a personal protocol. A personal protocol is a set of rules with a punishment/reward system that any submissive can use to help improve themselves
How Can I Satisfy My Need to Submit Without a Dominant? Read More »
Full Question: What can I do when I feel depressed and have the urge to withdraw from my dominant or pretend that I’m okay? Answer: Depression is difficult to go through, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it. I applaud your efforts to find ways to battle some of the symptoms. I hope that I
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Full Question: Luna…I am so very confused. I know I am submissive, but lately, I have been questioning if I am a sub or a baby girl. I don’t know exactly how to differentiate between the two, as the lines are kind of blurry for Daddy Doms. Help? Answer: Labels are confusing. They often have
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Full Question: My question revolves around the idea of being a new sub and wanting desperately to act it out with almost anyone who will play the Domme. It’s a kind of frenzy. But as you grow into the role, how do you set sensible boundaries and have a code of honor and values so
How do you set sensible boundaries when you’re a new sub? Read More »
Full Question: Please help. I’ve been so lost since my Master’s death. I feel so incomplete. Too many decisions, where’s my rules, where’s my life? How do I maintain my structure? I don’t know where to start, end or if I’m running in circles. Answer: I’m so sorry to hear of the death of your
I’ve been so lost since my Master’s death. What do I do? Read More »
Full Question: I met someone online, and he opened up to me about BDSM and him being a Dom. I had never even heard of the term before. Almost a year later, I still have a lot of questions unanswered. He wants us to meet, and so do I, but I’m scared. He says that
I’m very new, should I slow down? Read More »
Full Question: Do you think that someone can lose their submissive side? And how do they get it back? Answer: I feel if you identify as submissive, you can’t actually lose it, but you can lose sight of why you are submissive and what your focus in submission is. I get visibly angry at the
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Full Question: How would I know if I am a submissive? Answer: Submission has been called a gift, a natural characteristic, and a choice. Some people find submission a natural way to live, and it comes to them easily and simply. Other submissives have to learn about submission step by step. When you feel you
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Full Question: What really are the differences between submissive and slave? Can you be one and then change your mind later? Answer: Types of submissives come in as many varieties as wines; there is one for every palette and preference. When someone tells you that you are submissive and you finally admit to yourself that
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