Maybe you’ve been asked to learn about anal training or perhaps you are interested in exploring anal sex yourself. Maybe you are really nervous and want to learn more before taking the plunge. Or maybe anal sex is already a part of your sex routine and you want to learn some tips to make it […]
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Often misunderstood; subspace has a complexity that leads many to believe what they are experiencing isn’t subspace at all. But what we can all agree on is that subspace alters your senses during play. While SM play is most common to reach subspace you can get there using other means as well. But can you
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Dear lunaKM, I’m a sub and out of the game because a year or so after my husband and I married, I developed Lupus and have dealt with chronic pain ever since, especially in my joints. I know the difference between good pain and bad pain, so is there a way we can restart our
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I talk about going to munches as a good first step into the lifestyle and there’s certainly a lot of good that can come from that. But when you are already nervous or shy, having a negative experience will make you feel like it just wasn’t worth it or that you don’t fit in. When
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Whether you’re brand new to this thing we call BDSM (especially Dominance and submission) or you’ve been around a while, no doubt you’ve heard a few things that make you go, “Hmmmm? Really?” Today, let’s talk about the different myths surrounding submissives and submission. Some may surprise you. Myth 1: Submissives are weak. Take it
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Have you ever felt like you are all alone in this loud crowded world of kink? That the things you enjoy are uncommon. Or perhaps you have circumstances that govern how you play or what your relationships are like. It’s not that you are alone, not at all. The world of kink is huge and
Thank you Kayla Lords for tackling these questions! We received two questions both asking about BDSM and sexual experience, so in an effort to help everyone with the same kinds of questions, today is a two-fer. Dear lunaKM, Can a virgin with no sexual experience be a sub? Everything I know about submission is from
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A friend of mine called me up the other day to talk. She wanted to know how to talk to her partner about some new kink desires that she had. See she’s what I have always considered kink-lite compared to the way KnyghtMare and I live so while she’s easy to get along with we
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. For the purposes of this article I will assume that the submissive is ‘new’ to the lifestyle and that the Dominant directing them has limited or no experience with this aspect of BDSM.
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Being spanked isn’t just about enjoying pain—it’s about the release of control, emotional permission, and the intimacy of power exchange. This article explores the psychological and emotional appeal of spanking in BDSM and why many submissives find it fulfilling beyond the sting of impact.
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Sometimes you’re not fully in the mood for kinky sex—and that’s okay. This article explores sexual compromise in BDSM, how to recognize when your body and mind aren’t aligned, and ways to communicate honestly with your partner while still honoring your boundaries and your own sexual needs.
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Bimbofication can feel exciting and overwhelming, especially when old beliefs tie femininity to “sluttiness.” This article explores how to navigate the emotional challenges of transformation, communicate with your Dominant about pacing, and reframe feminine expression as empowering instead of shameful. Baby steps, self-reflection, and reframing can help you thrive.
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Starting a new BDSM group can feel daunting, but it’s a rewarding way to build community. From choosing a focus to finding venues and spreading the word, this guide walks you through the essentials of organizing your own munch or kink group safely, ethically, and with confidence.
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This Submissive Meditation Monday invites you to rekindle your sexual fire and reconnect with your sensual energy. Learn how mindfulness, sensory awareness, and intentional desire can deepen intimacy, renew passion, and help you embody the sexual confidence your submission—and your relationship—deserve.
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Wondering what really happens at a BDSM play party or dungeon? This guide walks you through who you’ll meet, what to expect, and how to handle your first event with confidence. Learn about etiquette, consent, and safety so you can explore your local kink community feeling prepared and welcome.
Nervous about attending your first BDSM munch? You’re not alone. This post explains what happens at a munch, who you’ll meet, and how to overcome those first-time jitters. Discover how these casual, welcoming meetups can help you learn, connect, and start building relationships in your local kink community.
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New to public kink spaces? This post breaks down the essential etiquette and general protocols to follow at munches, dungeons, and BDSM events. Learn how to stay respectful, confident, and composed while engaging with your local community—starting with one golden rule: always be polite.
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Looking for ways to meet local kinksters? This post breaks down the different ways to connect, from munches and educational events to online groups and casual socializing. Learn how to approach your local BDSM community with confidence and curiosity while building authentic, respectful relationships.
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Wondering how to find your local BDSM community? This post walks you through using online tools—like FetLife, social media, and event directories—to connect with local kinksters. Learn where to look, how to reach out, and how to start building meaningful real-world connections in your kinky community.
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Pansexuality is more than gender—it’s attraction to people as individuals. This reflection shares one submissive’s journey of discovering pansexual identity later in life, questioning labels, and embracing desire that transcends sex or gender. Honest, thoughtful, and personal, it offers insight into what being pansexual means in real relationships.
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