From understanding basic kink concepts to exploring various fetishes, this category is your starting point for building a solid foundation in the world of BDSM.
Subspace can feel different from person to person and from scene to scene. This article explores the five levels of subspace, explaining how each stage may show up during play and in emotional connection outside of scenes, helping submissives better understand their experiences, responses, and aftercare needs.
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Understanding vaginal anatomy is an important part of informed, consensual kink and sexual health. This article explores the structure and function of the vagina in an educational, respectful way, helping readers better understand their bodies, communicate about sensation and limits, and engage in play with greater awareness and safety.
A Discussion of Anatomy: The Vagina Read More »
Coming out as kinky is a deeply personal decision that carries emotional, relational, and sometimes professional implications. This article explores important considerations before disclosing your kink identity, helping readers weigh privacy, safety, and authenticity with intention rather than pressure or impulse.
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Not everyone naturally enjoys pain, yet for many people pain becomes erotic within consensual BDSM play. This article explores how sensation, mindset, trust, and emotional context can transform pain into pleasure, helping readers better understand their own responses while emphasizing consent, communication, and personal boundaries.
But I Don’t Like Pain! Learning to See the Eroticism in Pain as Pleasure Read More »
I had, for the longest time, an opinion that I was not going to write about or mention the “50 Shades of Grey” series on this site. I’ve never read them and have no desire to see the movie, but I have read countless reviews and read-alongs from others in the community and the media to make
How The 50 Shades of Grey Series and Movie Have Impacted the BDSM Lifestyle Read More »
Most of us in the BDSM or D/s lifestyle love our toys. Some of us have chests, trunks and even entire rooms dedicated to our tools and toys. I know that KnyghtMare and I have lots of toys and the space they take up keeps growing with each new purchase. Making sure they are clean
Tips for Taking Care of Your BDSM and Sex Toys Read More »
I sign up for a lot of emails. I get four to five daily recipes newsletters as well as several ebooks bargains of the day, daily quotes, and an occasional blog here and there. The other thing I sign up for is called The Daily OM. It’s a daily email newsletter with a message that
Finding Your Tribe-The Importance of the Kink Community Read More »
This is a guest post by MermaidHooked. The scene is built upon personal limitations and the ability to be self-aware in the midst of dangerous situations we willingly put ourselves in for the goal of receiving and giving pleasure. Finding and voicing limits can often be the most daunting part of the BDSM lifestyle. It can
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Trigger Warning: Blood play, cutting, blood and knives When I first filled out my BDSM checklist, I felt entirely insufficient. For every one activity that I really wanted to try, there were two that I said I never wanted to try. There seemed to be infinitely more zeros (which indicated hard limits) than threes (which
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I am a submissive. I have never felt exploited in any way. In fact, I feel empowered. I feel empowered in a way I have never felt before. It angers me to read that in light of the theatrical release of Fifty Shades of Grey, women activists believe that the kink community exploits women. That couldn’t
Empowerment, Not Exploitation: Women Activists are Wrong About the Kink Community Read More »
I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. With great
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Fetish. An object of extreme or irrational reverence or devotion. The often pathological displacement of erotic or libidinal interest sufficient to stimulate actions of worship. Often regarded as a fixation of the mind
“Oh yeah, that feels good, right here. Spank me there! Harder! No, not like that. Make it sting! Oh oh ouchie, back off a bit man!” For some of you, that stream of words is cringe-worthy. Who’s driving the scene if the bottom is assaulting the Top with all the direction? A submissive driving the
How to Be Responsive During Play Without Being Demanding Read More »
We all knew that the Fifty Shades of Grey movie would bring about a conversation regarding BDSM, non-vanilla relationships, and the nature of consent between adult sexual partners. I read an article discussing the “impact” of the film, and it got me thinking. In the interests of full disclosure, I will tell you that I have read
Fifty Shades of Grey, Consent and the Media’s Representation of Kink Read More »
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Submissive Frenzies are a state or condition that many if not all submissives will experience at one time or another. Many aspects of BDSM are similar to addictions in how they play out
Submissive Frenzies: When You Want It All RIGHT NOW! Read More »
One weekend, my Dominant and I had a number of really great scenes. No matter what we were doing, we were deeply connected to each other and it was blissful. I can’t even remember what we did but I remember the high I felt I was soaring on no matter what else we were doing
Feeling Down After a Play Session? You Could Have Sub Drop Read More »
First published on KinkAcademy.com. I wrote this almost 10 years ago and am sharing it again with you here. As with everything, BDSM has to offer, there are what are considered light play activities and those that are intense, even on the edge or taboo. Face slapping is considered the latter. Two years ago I
When He Slapped Me: My Impressions of Face Slapping Read More »
Do you trust everything you read? You shouldn’t. I suggest you not listen to everything I have to say. Why? Some if it might not be right or true for you and if that’s the case then what you read isn’t for you. It could even be based on fiction instead of reality. I’ve recently
Under the Microscope: Analyzing What You Read About BDSM for the Truth Read More »
So I kinda would like to explore bigger toys in my butt, but you hear all these myths. Like, if you go too big you’ll make your butthole so loose you become incontinent and other gross stuff. Is this true? No. In fact, just like the vagina, the muscles in the anus are incredibly elastic
No Stupid (Sex Toy) Questions: Butt Stretching Read More »
It’s the burning question on our lips now isn’t it? Through the earlier posts we’ve learned whether you are kinky, what role or roles we might enjoy and how to stay safe when exploring kink. So it makes sense that you now want to know how to find someone to experiment with and maybe have a relationship with! I’m going
BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With? Read More »
