Whether you are kinky only in the bedroom or participating in D/s as a lifestyle, developing rituals for your BDSM play is an intimate and powerful way to connect. Using rituals will strengthen your roles, build dynamic scenes, and amplify your playtime to create the ideal atmosphere for BDSM activities. What are Rituals? Rituals used in […]
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Rituals have always been an essential aspect of my daily life. In and outside of submission, ritual is how I interact with my reality. Practicing ritual is how I organize my time and make sense of complex abstract ideas (like love, devotion, and purpose). Yet, ritual itself is a complex abstract idea. Many people struggle to define it, and
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We live in uncertain times—as submissives and as people—our lives are changing every day. Uncertainty is not automatically a problem in itself. However, many of us have become accustomed to a certain amount of structure and control in our lives, making it challenging to make an abrupt, constant change. This makes sense. After all, we
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. The Formal Collar (frequently called the Slave Collar) is the representation of the final stage of commitment between the Dominant and submissive. This collar is offered after the Dominant and submissive have progressed
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The concepts of self-esteem and body image hugely hot topics for individuals of all life styles, but I have found it is especially poignant in Dominant/submissive life styles because sex plays such a vital role in our everyday lives rather than just the bedroom. When you’re being asked to put your body on display for
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This is a guest post from Slave Dove. I am unsure where it originated, but am sharing it here from a now defunct website. These dinners are what many would view as a “scene” but they are not play parties. No one is available for physical “use” it is formal Old Guard Domination and submission at
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules, and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them? KnyghtMare and I run a structured relationship. I expect rules and limits to my submission to him. It
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I’ve read a half-dozen articles on scattered around the scene that talks about all sorts of methods for keeping your body clean, for dressing to inspire confidence—or tactics to boost confidence without wearing anything at all; I’ve seen articles detailing in methods of hair removal, of after-hair-removal-care, but somehow in the jumble of cyberspace, I
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Every single day I perform rituals that I’ve created to help me feel connected to my submission even if I’m not in the mood or feeling in the right mindset. They are especially helpful during times of stress and busy life when the D/s may seem pushed back so that other pressing matters can be
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Throughout history, people have been creating specialized rituals for different events in their lives from birth to coming of age, marriage and even death. Some of the special events that we are drawn to in a D/s bend are the more “everyday” form of formal behavior and on occasion, a ceremony that comes from other
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How do you maintain a 24/7 D/s relationship and still live in the real world? This is my new challenge as my Master moved in with me late this summer. Rituals: My original thought was to maintain rituals. When I came home, I wanted to go up to my Master in the house and kneel.
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I know I say I use FetLife for a lot of my ideas on things to write about, and it’s true. There are many novices on there and the multitude of questions and topics that come up help me generate a lot of thoughts that I can put into words, opinions and hopefully helpful advice
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Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be challenging to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy workday. A submissive can use rituals to help them achieve the right mind-space, leaving the outside world behind and regaining the
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