Dear LunaKM, I lost my Master to cancer two weeks ago, and I’m not sure how to grieve, He was not only my master he was my best friend. While there are moments of deep sadness I don’t feel I’m grieving enough. Shortly after his passing I had to clean out his home and it […]
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Dear lunaKM, So…i am a collared submissive & wear my Ring of Steel collar 24/7, proudly. Problem is: i work in a food service position, where jewelry is prohibited & my supervisor is threatening to take disciplinary action should i wear my collar during my next shift (despite my working while wearing it for nearly 2
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Dear Submissive Guide, My Dom and I are basically in a LDR. We have been together for about 8 months. His job requirements are such that he travels consistently. In our relationship he identified as poly and I have great interest as well. We decided that it would be in our best interest to become
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Hi Submissive Guide My Dominant and I are trying to get our relationship going in the right direction again. We have been married for 23 years and in an M/s relationship for the past 4 years. In the beginning he read everything and was involved and it was everything I dreamed it would be but
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I have met someone online and he has asked me to be his submissive. After much talk etc… I agreed he then asked for money as a gift to show commitment to him and to show I was serious about this ? This has made me wary I have done everything else he has asked
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Dear lunaKM, I am a sub that is very new to the BDSM scene. I know a little bit, but I’m quite unfamiliar with a lot. Recently, I met someone online that immediately recognized me as a sub, and I would love to impress him. He asked me what my limits are, and what I’m
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So I am not satisfied with my boyfriend. I don’t know how to go about telling him, I want to be dominated. I am not responding to vanilla sex anymore, and need more. I need/want him to be domineering, to know he will take care of my wants and needs. We have had bumps in the
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Hi Submissive Guide, I, and my two female subs are involved with a sub woman who lives two hours away. She drives up to see us twice a week, on her days off. She really enjoys being with us, and I’d like to collar her. The problem is that she refuses to tell her current
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Thank you Kayla Lords for answering this reader’s question! Dear Submissive Guide, My Dominant and I have recently reconnected and are feeling out a new, healthier format for our relationship. However, he confessed to being unfaithful to me when we were together before (out of a fear of intimacy, which he is working on). I
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Is there any service out there that you can talk to a live person and go through some things that are fairly new to me in real time like right now… not necessarily the paid chat but just someone to ask questions and see if what I’m doing is normal…well somewhat normal. Hi there! I
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Thank you Mrs. Darling for answering this reader’s question! Dear Submissive Guide, I’m hoping you can offer some advice to a newbie. I’ve met a Dom online, we had a first date (just lunch) and will be meeting again shortly to negotiate a contract. I have never ever done this before. I’m overweight and over
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Dear lunaKM, I’m a sub and out of the game because a year or so after my husband and I married, I developed Lupus and have dealt with chronic pain ever since, especially in my joints. I know the difference between good pain and bad pain, so is there a way we can restart our
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Dear lunaKM, I’m starting to enter a long distance d/s relationship as a sub. You have a lot of excellent articles about self aftercare for subs in ldrs (long distance relationships), which I’ve made good use of, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for how to look after your dom long distance? Sincerely, Long
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Thank you Kayla Lords for tackling these questions! We received two questions both asking about BDSM and sexual experience, so in an effort to help everyone with the same kinds of questions, today is a two-fer. Dear lunaKM, Can a virgin with no sexual experience be a sub? Everything I know about submission is from
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Hello lunaKM , I have recently met a very dominant man. I have always been a bit submissive and love the idea of worshipping a man fully. The first night we were together I got pregnant I am keeping the baby and he is thrilled. But he tells me I need to research in order
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Opening a relationship when it’s already unstable can be risky. This article explores the challenges of balancing BDSM needs, fear, and relationship repair. Discover insights for partners navigating uncertainty, and resources to better understand power exchange while protecting the foundation of your primary relationship.
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Exploring masochism when mental illness is part of the picture can be daunting. This article offers guidance on recognizing healthy versus unhealthy triggers, starting safe conversations with your Dominant, and seeking professional support when needed—so you can balance desire, trust, and well-being in your dynamic.
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Kneeling is often symbolic in D/s, but what happens when knee pain gets in the way? This article explores realistic tips and alternatives for submissives with knee pain—from positioning adjustments to communication with your Dominant—so you can remain comfortable, safe, and devoted without unnecessary suffering.
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Exploring online submission can be exciting—but also confusing without clear guidance. This article addresses what to do when your “Dom” gives no direction, how to spot red flags, and why communication and boundaries matter. Learn how to protect yourself while enjoying an online D/s relationship safely and with confidence.
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Many submissives work demanding jobs that leave them depleted before coming home to serve. This article explores how exhaustion impacts submission and offers advice for creating recovery time, negotiating expectations with your Dominant, and practicing grace with yourself. Learn how to balance obedience with the reality of physical and emotional fatigue.
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