Thank you Kayla Lords for answering this reader’s question! Dear Submissive Guide, My Dominant and I have recently reconnected and are feeling out a new, healthier format for our relationship. However, he confessed to being unfaithful to me when we were together before (out of a fear of intimacy, which he is working on). I […]
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Is there any service out there that you can talk to a live person and go through some things that are fairly new to me in real time like right now… not necessarily the paid chat but just someone to ask questions and see if what I’m doing is normal…well somewhat normal. Hi there! I
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Thank you Mrs. Darling for answering this reader’s question! Dear Submissive Guide, I’m hoping you can offer some advice to a newbie. I’ve met a Dom online, we had a first date (just lunch) and will be meeting again shortly to negotiate a contract. I have never ever done this before. I’m overweight and over
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Dear lunaKM, I’m a sub and out of the game because a year or so after my husband and I married, I developed Lupus and have dealt with chronic pain ever since, especially in my joints. I know the difference between good pain and bad pain, so is there a way we can restart our
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Dear lunaKM, I’m starting to enter a long distance d/s relationship as a sub. You have a lot of excellent articles about self aftercare for subs in ldrs (long distance relationships), which I’ve made good use of, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for how to look after your dom long distance? Sincerely, Long
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Thank you Kayla Lords for tackling these questions! We received two questions both asking about BDSM and sexual experience, so in an effort to help everyone with the same kinds of questions, today is a two-fer. Dear lunaKM, Can a virgin with no sexual experience be a sub? Everything I know about submission is from
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Hello lunaKM , I have recently met a very dominant man. I have always been a bit submissive and love the idea of worshipping a man fully. The first night we were together I got pregnant I am keeping the baby and he is thrilled. But he tells me I need to research in order
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Opening a relationship when it’s already unstable can be risky. This article explores the challenges of balancing BDSM needs, fear, and relationship repair. Discover insights for partners navigating uncertainty, and resources to better understand power exchange while protecting the foundation of your primary relationship.
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Exploring masochism when mental illness is part of the picture can be daunting. This article offers guidance on recognizing healthy versus unhealthy triggers, starting safe conversations with your Dominant, and seeking professional support when needed—so you can balance desire, trust, and well-being in your dynamic.
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Kneeling is often symbolic in D/s, but what happens when knee pain gets in the way? This article explores realistic tips and alternatives for submissives with knee pain—from positioning adjustments to communication with your Dominant—so you can remain comfortable, safe, and devoted without unnecessary suffering.
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Exploring online submission can be exciting—but also confusing without clear guidance. This article addresses what to do when your “Dom” gives no direction, how to spot red flags, and why communication and boundaries matter. Learn how to protect yourself while enjoying an online D/s relationship safely and with confidence.
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Many submissives work demanding jobs that leave them depleted before coming home to serve. This article explores how exhaustion impacts submission and offers advice for creating recovery time, negotiating expectations with your Dominant, and practicing grace with yourself. Learn how to balance obedience with the reality of physical and emotional fatigue.
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Bimbofication can feel exciting and overwhelming, especially when old beliefs tie femininity to “sluttiness.” This article explores how to navigate the emotional challenges of transformation, communicate with your Dominant about pacing, and reframe feminine expression as empowering instead of shameful. Baby steps, self-reflection, and reframing can help you thrive.
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Exploring how to introduce your kinky desires to a partner can feel intimidating. This article offers subtle ways to signal your submissive interests while emphasizing the importance of clear, direct communication. Learn how to balance hints with honest conversation so your needs are understood and your dynamic grows stronger.
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In a poly triad, feeling like a “third wheel” can cause frustration and hurt—especially when one partner leans on marital status for power. This article explores how to address conflict, express concerns, and work with your Dominant to restore balance and equality within the dynamic.
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Do you feel addicted to your Dominant when you’re apart? You’re not alone. This article explores why submissives can experience obsession, longing, and withdrawal, and how love chemicals like oxytocin and dopamine play a role. Find reassurance and perspective on whether your intense feelings are healthy and normal.
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Bruising is a common concern with caning and other impact play. This article explores why bruising happens, what factors influence it, and how partners can approach caning with greater awareness, communication, and aftercare, helping reduce harm while prioritizing safety, consent, and bodily care.
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Old relationship wounds don’t disappear just because a new opportunity appears. This article explores how unresolved scars from past relationships can impact new D/s or romantic connections, offering guidance on healing, rebuilding trust, and approaching new dynamics with awareness instead of fear.
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Being a single submissive can feel isolating or discouraging at times. This article explores how to stay positive while single by focusing on personal growth, community, self-understanding, and patience, helping readers strengthen their identity and confidence rather than tying their worth to relationship status.
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Me and my boy friend have recently become interested in a D/s relationship I want more information but I’m not sure where to look. Knowing where to start can be difficult when you don’t know a whole lot about BDSM. You have at least taken a good first step by encountering Submissive Guide and there
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