How can I approach a Dominant?

Full Question: How can I approach a Dominant?

Answer: 

Many submissives struggle to approach Dominants due to fear of not appearing submissive as the pursuer. However, it is possible to approach a Dominant with confidence. Here are some tips:

Face-to-Face:

  • Research the Dominant beforehand to learn about their availability and interests.
  • Approach with confidence and avoid appearing timid.
  • Avoid staring, as it can come off as creepy.
  • Introduce yourself and express interest in getting to know them better.
  • Be assertive in asking them out on a date or negotiating play, using your interpersonal skills.

Online:

  • Keep initial emails short, as lengthy ones may not be read.
  • Use the email to prompt the recipient to view your profile.
  • Reference something from their profile to show you’ve taken an interest.
  • Ask a question to engage them in conversation and show interest.
  • Exaggerate your interest to compensate for the lack of emotion in online communication.

Overall, confidence, authenticity, and assertiveness are key when approaching Dominants, whether in person or online.

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