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Add Your Favorite BDSM Books Reading List to Your Submissive Training Resume

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

Since the beginning of Submissive Guide, I have been writing essays to help you build your service/submissive/slave resume. This is the living document of your experience and training on different tasks and a variety of relationships. If you are interested in reading the previous posts about the Training Resume I suggest you start at the topic […]

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A Lesson in Control with Self-Punishment

By Luna Carruthers / 5 minutes of reading

Each and every day there is the chance to screw up and be disobedient. Luckily, most of us won’t break rules every single day but when we do we know that punishment will come swiftly and precisely. That is unless you are an online submissive. Then there are a few other steps to having punishment

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Coming Clean: Admitting Your Disobedience

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

We all have those little voices in our head that tell us what to do. Sometimes it tries to convince us that our disobedience is okay. The voices are very convincing at times and then we have guilt riding with us until we come clean. Perhaps you’ve heard these voices yourself: “Come on, he won’t see me

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Finding Domesticity In You

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

I’m personally not a domestic person. When I do find the desire to clean it’s normally to relieve stress (believe it or not). It can help calm my nerves and give my mind something else to do while working on the house. Since I’ve become Master’s stay at home submissive I find I need to

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Living with Kids While in the D/s Lifestyle

By guest-author / 5 minutes of reading

This is a guest post by Christian. He is a switch male of the D/s lifestyle for the past 14 years. For my first post here I am going to write about something I get asked a fair bit. How does one raise kids in a D/s household? As one with several kids I thought

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Juggling Daily Life and Submission

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

We all have responsibilities in life. The family needs to be taken care of and fed, you have to work, pay the bills and keep the home repaired. Kids have to be cared for and carted around from games to classes to other outings. There are days you feel that there aren’t enough hours in

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Dating in the Lifestyle – What’s the Big Deal?

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

“It’s so hard to find someone in the Lifestyle that I’m compatible with. You are so lucky to have found someone.” I don’t know how many times I hear this on a daily basis when conversing. It always brings up my view on the whole dating atmosphere within the Lifestyle. Yes, it is hard to find

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Handling an Eating Disorder While in Service to a Dominant

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

Those of you who read my blog already know this, but for most of you, this will be news. I have an addiction. At the end of last month, I came to the realization that I am a binge eater and secret eater. I’m addicted to food and the way it makes me feel. While

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The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

By Luna Carruthers / 6 minutes of reading

New to BDSM? Discover how a checklist can help you explore kinks, identify limits, and communicate preferences with potential partners. A must-have tool for novice submissives!

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The Most Popular and Favorite Books on BDSM – According to Our Readers

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

The following is a compilation of the most purchased BDSM-related books on Amazon – by our community. They are organized by the number purchased through affiliate links in the past year. *All links are affiliate links. Help support Submissive Guide by purchasing at Amazon through these links!

The Many Faces of Submission

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

Types of submissives come in as many varieties as wines; there is one for every palette and preference. When someone tells you that you are submissive and you finally admit to yourself that you are submissive, which can be a journey itself, you can figure out how your submission differs from another by what type

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Where to Buy a BDSM Collar Online

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

Places to buy a collar are numerous. Each relationship has a different idea of what the collar should look like. If you’d like to explore collars and collaring check out the series I have on the subject! Collars and Collaring Listed below are a few of the many places you can go online to shop

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Why BDSM is Not D/s

By guest-author / 4 minutes of reading

This post is by Skylerpet. She’s written several other posts here for Submissive Guide. You can read more of her work on online submission and pet play here. BDSM and D/s. Some see it as the same, I see them as two very different things. Here, I plan on explaining the how’s and why’s of my

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Banishment as a Form of Punishment: How Do You Cope?

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

“Go to your room!” Yes, even adults in power exchange relationships get treated like children sometimes. A common tool for Dominants in their punishment arsenal is removal. You can be removed from the activity and sent to a time out area. For me, that’s the kitchen. Ugh. I hate when I’m banished there. I can

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5 Ways to Bring Out Your Dominance In Bed

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

This may seem like a really odd topic to be posting in a submissive blog, but there is a reason. I’ve had a question recently from a submissive woman who has been asked on occasion to be assertive and dominant in bed by her Dominant. She says she can’t connect with that because she is

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How to Give Good Initial Submissive Interviews for a D/s Relationship

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

When you first start talking to a potential Dominant you go through an initial interview. A lot of times this is just a period where basic questions are asked and your answers help the Dominant gauge just how interested you are in them, how compatible you are with them and what your intelligence level is.

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Simple Steps to Introduce Kink into an Existing Relationship

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

When you discover that you might be kinky there are a lot of questions surrounding how to accept that. One of those may be trying to explore that kink with your existing partner. But how do you bring up the subject and how do you handle what they may say about the ideas you are

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A Complete Guide to BDSM Collars

By Luna Carruthers / 5 minutes of reading

A BDSM collar is a piece of jewelry with a secret meaning. A collar for submissives is one of the most fundamental symbols of their relationship and one that is usually guarded and protected with their heart. There is a lot of information online about collars already but I thought I’d jump in with my

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When You Can’t Get Away: Follow Up to Submissive PMS

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

1. What’s a subbie to do when, for whatever reason, he or she cannot get away? What about the use of corporal discipline to help put the sub in his or her place? Sure there will always be times when a submissive is not able to get away to refocus for a number of reasons.

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Nurtured or Natural: The Connection Between Submission and Childhood Abuse

By Luna Carruthers / 5 minutes of reading

Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go off and want to blame the abuse for how you live your life now. I can’t say that I have the global answer, but I do have

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