When an individual enters a relationship, it’s quite easy to lose yourself. You start using ‘we’ instead. “We” liked the movie, “We didn’t like the restaurant” and of course, there’s all those love songs about two becoming one (I am so sorry if the Spice Girls song 2 Becomes 1 is now stuck in your […]
Remember Who You Are – Staying True to Yourself in a D/s Relationship Read More »
I know how you feel right now. You’ve discovered this thing called BDSM in some fashion or another and it pulls you in to get it a try. But as you search through countless websites, Amazon BDSM book lists and the sheer number of opinions on BDSM you realize this barrage of information is going
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The other day in a female submissives only group I help run on Facebook, I posted a link that talked about what things were expected of a 1950’s housewife. This isn’t the first time I’ve seen this and it probably won’t be the last. This is one of those things that tend to pop up on
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. This question is asked with increasing frequency especially among those who are married and desire to remain with their spouse. Discovery of this lifestyle does not doom your current marriage, relationship, engagement etc.
Enhancing the Dominant or Submissive Traits in Your Vanilla Partner Read More »
The other day in a submissives only group that I’m in on Facebook, the topic of domestic service came up. The member was new to the lifestyle and had questions about resources specifically for domestic service and asked if there was anyone out there who could help point her in the right direction. Being the
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As I continue to delve deeper into my journey as a slave, I have come to the point where I am giving another round of contemplation to matters I once saw as pretty straightforward – one being the matter of the connection between submission and obedience in regards to hierarchical relationships. There seems to be
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If you didn’t catch it in the post about my Miracle Morning, I am without a collar. After 10 years in KnyghtMare’s collar, he asked for its return in mid-April. I was devastated, but I knew things were pretty bad off for quite some time. You might have picked that up from the Meditation Monday
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This is a guest post by The Femdomist. Foot fetish is a stable of the BDSM community and touted as one of the most common fetishes. It’s hardly surprising: it’s a versatile fetish, with so many varieties and preferences. From passionate and loving foot massages to hardcore humiliation with dirty feet and foot cuckolding. The fetish
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What if I told you that you could be living your life without regrets, successful and happy and not settle for less than the best? What if I told you that all it takes is changing your morning routine? Would you do it? I have been in a slump, a pretty big slump. I know
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When I say “boss” what I really mean is “in control of some part of your life.” So maybe you own your own business. Maybe you’re a team leader or supervisor. Hell, maybe you’re a single parent raising a kid or two, working two jobs, and basically being two people. Whatever “boss” means to you,
Can You Be a Boss and a Submissive? Read More »
Hello, my name is Tequila Rose and I’m a little. I love my stuffies and am always asking Daddy for more. I think juice tastes 100% better in my sippy cup. I love to color and feel that I can never have enough coloring pages, crayons, or colored pencils. I can spend countless hours sitting
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You’re a submissive in your first D/s relationship. It’s not the exact relationship you want – maybe your partner’s still married, maybe you are, maybe you’re long-distance – but it’s okay. You love how submitting to your Dominant makes you feel. The voice they use, the kink you do together, and the realization it makes
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During Cyber Monday sales, I decided to treat myself to a couple of new books. I bought The Trainer and The Academy, both by Laura Antoniou, books three and four in The Marketplace series. I have been a huge fan of this series for several years now and just recently reintroduced myself to it. I own the first two
That Don’t Impress Me Much: Why You Should Not Withhold Your Safeword Read More »
Explore a sample Master/slave contract that includes an ethical non-monogamy section. Use this customizable D/s template to create a relationship contract tailored to your dynamic.
Sample Master/slave Contract with Ethical Non-Monogamy Section Read More »
When I was first learning about sex as a teenager there were a few key bits of information that the adults around me wanted to drive home. Sex was done in a loving relationship; remember “when two people love each other very, very much…”, as adults and only if you wanted children. Nothing was ever
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Struggling to find the perfect name for your Dominant? Explore a list of creative, respectful, and meaningful title suggestions for Dominants in BDSM relationships.
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This is our current contract, making adjustments from our other standard version that has served us so well over the years. Over time it became ingrained in us. I knew when to kneel, how he liked me dressed, what he expected to be called. We needed something lighter, less clunky. I have made available our
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The other day in a submissive’s group I’m in on Facebook, a member made a post about something her dominant wanted her to do, yet she was absolutely 100% against doing and was looking for help on how to get past her unwillingness. There were several comments and there was one in particular that caught
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I think that many of us would agree that while playtime is not the most important aspect of our relationships, it plays a fairly vital role in our happiness in those relationships. It is, after all, one of the things that drive us to realize that mainstream relationships just don’t fit right for us, the
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by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. In summary — play nice. BDSM is about playing games, and in the best games everyone has fun. Further Reading and Sources This article is only meant to be a
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