Do Doms Like to See The Resulting Bruises from Playtime?

Full Question: Do most Doms like to see their handiwork afterward?  I have a new Dom and would like to text pics and thank him for my bruises.  I don’t quite have a read on him, so I was looking for opinions.

Answer: 

The short answer is “maybe.”

First, I want to clarify to those of you new to BDSM that not all Dominants are into play that would cause bruises or marks on their submissive. Sadomasochism is another branch of the BDSM tree, and D/s does not have to intersect with that if you have no interest. 

But this question comes from a submissive that does have this incorporated, so with that in mind….

Ask them. There’s no reason to try and “get a read on them” when you can come out and ask them. Healthy relationships have very open communication, and the sooner you stop guessing what they want and start talking and sharing with them, the better your relationship can become. 

It can be as simple as, “Sir, I have some beautiful marks from play earlier that I’m very proud of. Would you like to see them?”

And it’s always appropriate to thank them for the intimate time spent with them. 

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