I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most […]
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We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases, a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is open to learning from their partner.
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Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist to masochist) – however there are
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I’m here to break the news to you about a piece of misinformation about submissives. Are you ready? You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused. You think
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This essay was first written and published in the Society of Janus newsletter “Growing Pains.” I hope you enjoy! Pushing boundaries in pain tolerance is a common request for submissives of all flavors. As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to escape from it; rarely do I
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There are several very good podcasts online that I enjoy listening to from time to time and I finally pulled together a short list of the ones that I don’t like to miss a single episode. What is a podcast you ask? And there really are adult kink-oriented podcasts? Why yes! A podcast is an
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You are a bedroom submissive. You may only submit only in the bedroom, or on weekends or for only set time periods. So having rituals seems foreign to you, right? Maybe. They aren’t meant for you, right? Wrong. If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full-time submissives only or those in committed
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Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point, after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is
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Every single day I perform rituals that I’ve created to help me feel connected to my submission even if I’m not in the mood or feeling in the right mindset. They are especially helpful during times of stress and busy life when the D/s may seem pushed back so that other pressing matters can be
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Are you looking for kink friends and fun close to you? Have you heard about munches, but don’t know what they are, much less where to look? Are you traveling or relocating and not sure about the community at your destination? Or, are you already involved, and you want your local organization to grow? FindaMunch.com
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I listened to a podcast from Erotic Awakening the other day that talked about The Slave Journal. The idea for this document is not the same as having a journal or blog to document your life in and I thought it was an excellent idea and a useful tool for many relationships. Maybe even yours! So,
Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think! Read More »
Developing your own personal mantra is a path to peace and achievement. You can then use your mantra whenever you feel stressed or out of focus with your submission. I use my mantra on a daily basis to keep my mindset on my Dominant and the behavior he has trained in me. What is a
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I first published this in Society of Janus’ Bi-monthly newsletter, I thought I’d share it with you as well. Exploring kink is full of exciting experiences and hormonal roller coasters. We manipulate adrenaline and endorphins to give us a pleasurable experience during play. Often without knowing how these hormones will impact us after the play
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Is it healthy to use humiliation as a punishment? I mean, it’s fun during scenes. You know it’s just play & you can always use your safe word if your Dominant hits you where it hurts. During punishments, you know your Dominant isn’t pleased with you, which is painful enough alone. That’s why you’re being
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Your scene has just ended and you both feel spent, exhausted and buzzing with good feelings. And then you look around the room, move your aching limbs and start to come out of your or play-induced fog. The room is a mess, there are toys everywhere. Both of you need aftercare. Who does what? How
After the Scene is Over – Clean-up, Aftercare, and Check-Ins Read More »
I admit that I used to whisper tales of sub space and the other blissful states that I’ve been in as if they were magical golden hours of submission. I actually believed long ago that sub space is what made me a “real” submissive. Trust me, that bubble didn’t last long. Once it was popped
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“How can I be the submissive he wants me to be?” “Can you give me advice on how to be the best submissive I can be?” “How do I know I’m going to be a good slave?” I get these questions all the time and they are a valid and reasonable concern. All of us
Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential Read More »
There are a few “sins” in the world of BDSM; ignoring a safe word and touching that which does not belong to you are a few examples. But, while both of these are bad, one might be able to look at a different point of view. Someone may ignore a safeword because their scene involves
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My question is not so much specifically for a submissive, to be honest, i don’t know where to go about this. But after all i have read from you, Luna, i respect your opinions & views & thought you would be best to ask. I have noticed that in the last few years, so many of
Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions? Read More »
There are things you can do to help you prevent some or all of the symptoms of sub drop. Taking care of yourself after you play is a personal responsibility that I wish more submissives would take upon themselves.
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