Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you […]
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As a novice looking for a relationship it is a good thing to know if discipline and punishment are something you are looking for. The punishment I’m talking about today is the correction for infractions, or getting into trouble. It’s not about the playtime activities which can be called punishment also. So, thinking about your
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Originally published April 9, 2011 on Fearless Press when I was a guest author there. From an early age, I would look into the mirror and see only the things I wish I could change; from the dimple in my chin, my growing belly and fat arms to my round face, huge jiggly ass. Then I didn’t
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You are in trouble and waiting for corporal punishment. You are anxious, sad, depressed, frustrated about the whole thing but you know that you did something wrong and need to atone for it to get on the right path again. No one likes getting punished (at least you shouldn’t), so what happens if, as the
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People often misunderstand how relationship communication works because they may have had such poor examples or think that coercing or manipulating someone is par for the course. You don’t want to tease someone, push them to get angry or jealous with you in hopes that the ensuing fight ends with hot and steamy makeup sex
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Today’s newsletter is going to be a light and fun one, I hope. I’ve done some work to find jokes and funny stories with a BDSM or sexual slant to them. Not everything we do in BDSM is serious. Here’s a story, told by my Master KnyghtMare. It’s a true story. The AC Was Broken…
Humor in BDSM – Jokes, Funny Tales, and When the AC Was Broken Read More »
I’ve noticed a lot of questions in FetLife recently (and almost always) about how to maintain the mindset in a 24/7 relationship. I’ve not responded to these there because I’ve created this article as my reply. The advice that the people have received may or may not help them. My thoughts on the subject are
The Myth of the 24/7 Submissive Mindset (and Why So Many of Us Struggle) Read More »
I often get the question about how I can be submissive all the time, that I must have other responsibilities that should take precedence on occasion and submission is often turned off. I can understand where these questions are coming from but for me, submission isn’t what I do, it’s who I am. It’s much
Everyone Needs a Break, Right – Do you Break from Submission? Read More »
Ever since the advent of the Internet, people have been hooking up via technology. A whole new world opened up for people who were shy, not a part of a smaller community or felt like they couldn’t find a date anywhere. For many people who date online, they will say that being anonymous and looking
Write an Online BDSM Dating Profile That Gets Results! Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is your need to submit being met? If not, or if your situation changed, do you think that you could continue in your life and still be happy/content if you were never able to express your submission in the
30 Days of Submission: Day 30 – What Makes Submission Special? Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is pain or humiliation (spankings for example) a part of your submission? What is your relationship to it? Do you embrace it as a part of your submission, tolerate it as necessary or have some other type of relationship
30 Days of Submission: Day 29 – BDSM in the Relationship Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Has your submission ever let you down? Have you ever been criticized for your submission? Have you ever regretted being or feeling submissive in a moment or in a relationship? Have you ever looked back and realized you made
30 Days of Submission: Day 28 – Negativity about Submission Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you have submissive desires or fantasies that you have yet to be able to explore? Do some of your desires confuse or frighten you? Do they excite you? I have sexual fantasies but I have to say that
30 Days of Submission: Day 27 – Fantasies Waiting Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! What are the qualities you seek in a dominant partner and why? Are some qualities deal-breakers as in “must” haves or “must not” have? When I was looking for a Dominant I wasn’t really sure what I was looking
30 Days of Submission: Day 26 – Qualities of My Ideal Dominant Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Are there items, objects or rituals that represent or help you express submission? If not, have you ever thought of adding or being gifted one? Is there a special significance to these objects or rituals? My relationship is full
30 Days of Submission: Day 25 – Rituals of Submission Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! What are the emotions that most directly let you access submission? What feelings do they inspire? I really had to think about this one for awhile because I feel my submission isn’t an emotion and doesn’t need to be
30 Days of Submission: Day 24 – Emotional Connection to Submission Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is there anything about submission (yours or what you see in others) that you question, dislike or repels you? Was there a time you questioned or were resistant to your own submissive feelings? Wow. I spent a good long
30 Days of Submission: Day 23 – Questioning my Submission Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Can you feel submissive without a dominant partner? If so, how does your submission express itself? If not, how do you handle your submission or submissive feelings? I do believe that you can feel submissive without a Dominant but
30 Days of Submission: Day 22 – Submission without Domination, is it possible? Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is there a physical position that makes you feel most submissive? As common as this sounds whenever I’m below his belt/waist height I feel more submissive to him. It could simply be because I have to look up to
30 Days of Submission: Day 21 – Positions of Submission Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Has your submission increased or decreased over time? Have you ever had to renegotiate your submission due to a change in your feelings or circumstance? Honestly, I can’t say if my submission has increased or decreased over time because
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