Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? How do you feel about it? Discipline and punishment are a small part of our dynamic. KnyghtMare prefers not to have to discipline me, but […]
30 Days of Submission: Day 7 – Accepting Punishment Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! What do you feel are the roots of your submission? Do you think it has something to do with childhood? Is it a relationship management tool as in the practice of domestic discipline? Is it a sexual thrill or
30 Days of Submission: Day 6 – The Root of My Submission Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about
30 Days to Submission: Day 5 – Counting and Comparing Relationships Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules, and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them? KnyghtMare and I run a structured relationship. I expect rules and limits to my submission to him. It
30 Days of Submission: Day 9 – Structure, Rules and Rituals Aplenty Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you switch into a dominant role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought
30 Days of Submission: Day 4 – Itching to Switch Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! How do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive? How do you feel when you express your submission? I covered a bit in day one that I discovered submission through Yahoo conversations with Dominants
30 Days of Submission: Day 3 – That Submissive Feeling Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are
30 Days of Submission: Day 2 – Who has my submission? Read More »
As I shared with you last week I am doing Nanowrimo this month so I’m focusing my writing there. While I’m away I have prepared an interesting series for Submissive Guide. This is the first of 30 days where you all get to learn a little bit (or a lot) about me. I’m going to
30 Days of Submission Challenge: Day 1 – Labeling My Submission Read More »
Last week I let you know that I was going to be participating in National Novel Writing Month for the 3rd year to produce content for Submissive Guide. I will be writing like a mad woman throughout the month of November and because of that, wanted a break from writing for the site during Nanowrimo.
November’s Special Series – lunaKM’s 30 Days of Submission Read More »
I try to share a new book with you every other month. I’m still reading the book I had planned for this month so I thought I’d open the floor for you to let me know what you think of a book you’ve read. If you’ve cozied up with a book recently and want to
Have you Read a Good BDSM-Related Book Recently? Send Me a Review! Read More »
I’m often stunned by the amount of mail I get from submissives telling me that they thought submission was going to be easy; that they could stop worrying about life, give up all responsibility and just serve someone else’s whims. The fantasy was strong with these men and women and I hate bursting people’s bubbles
Why is Submission So Hard! Read More »
Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group. We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact, KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible? Read More »
Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. Trying to force your desires on your partner can come as a shock, and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind, it could end badly.
Navigating the Challenges of a Vanilla Partner in a Kink World Read More »
The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship. It is, of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection. We all know that the path of submission is
Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself Read More »
I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink Read More »
We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases, a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is open to learning from their partner.
How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant Read More »
Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist to masochist) – however there are
How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play Read More »
I’m here to break the news to you about a piece of misinformation about submissives. Are you ready? You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused. You think
Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission Read More »
This essay was first written and published in the Society of Janus newsletter “Growing Pains.” I hope you enjoy! Pushing boundaries in pain tolerance is a common request for submissives of all flavors. As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to escape from it; rarely do I
Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization Read More »
There are several very good podcasts online that I enjoy listening to from time to time and I finally pulled together a short list of the ones that I don’t like to miss a single episode. What is a podcast you ask? And there really are adult kink-oriented podcasts? Why yes! A podcast is an
Recommended Podcasts for Kink and Power Exchange Relationships Read More »
