At the beginning of the series, I addressed the idea that the final layer of the way we perceive ourselves is a product of how others perceive us. Although the focus of the series technically is building routines around grooming and health to maintain your own self-image, it would be unfair to ignore what I […]
Self-Esteem/Grooming Series Concludes: Accepting Comments and Compliments Read More »
This was probably the trickiest piece to add to the series. None of this is actually meant to be soapboxing, but because body image is such a hot-button topic, it was difficult to keep this short, effective, and yet general enough that I’m not trying to dictate the way that people should eat and exercise
Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 4: Diet & Exercise Read More »
As I stated in the introduction to my article about the upkeep of hair, the care that you give you nails, feet and hands play an important role in how you present yourself to other people, and as such, their upkeep can greatly boost your sense of self-worth. Again, this is partially achieved by giving
Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 3: Nail Care Read More »
Whether you’re a little, a slave, or a sub, the condition of your hands and hair can make or break your appearance. Just like wearing a costume, you’d never put on an outfit and then leave your hair to do its natural thing, and the remnants of your three week old nail polish on your
Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 2: Hair Read More »
It’s probably a cliché to start this article with a play on the adage, “beauty is only skin deep,” but let’s face it, when you’re embarking on a conversation about your complexion, there really is no better way to start. Taking care of your skin is incredibly important, not just on your face, but on
Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 1: Skin Care Read More »
The concepts of self-esteem and body image hugely hot topics for individuals of all life styles, but I have found it is especially poignant in Dominant/submissive life styles because sex plays such a vital role in our everyday lives rather than just the bedroom. When you’re being asked to put your body on display for
Build Self-Esteem through Grooming Rituals: Series Intro Read More »
With franchises like Fifty Shades of Grey having integrated themselves almost completely in the mainstream, I have had the combined frustration and horror of my role as a submissive and my role as a teacher nearly clashing more than once. While I would NEVER share any part of my home activities with any of my
Keep Your Voice: Your Rights as a Submissive Read More »
As I have been making the slow transition between Active School Teacher to Active House kitty this summer, time management has become a really important factor in my daily routine. As I am sure is the case with many subs who spend a good deal of time at home, the pressure to make myself feel
Time Management: The Pomodoro Technique Read More »
One of the many delightful side-effects of moving to the same country as my Dom is that we get to actually DO couple things. We get to go out on dates, go out with other couples as a couple, invite people to our home for dinner parties—all of the grown up stuff that my parents
Publicly Domesticated, Privately Dominated – Subtle D/s in Public Read More »
It’s not pleasant, but it’s a reality that many relationships face, even when those relationships are kinky. It’s not the preference of one activity over another, but the desire for any activity at all; it’s the age old question: are you up for it? and the difference between your response and your partner’s. Having a
Coping with Different Sex Drives in a Relationship Read More »
A common misunderstanding that people who are new to the scene seem to have is that kink and sex are indistinguishable from each other: if something kinky ensues, something sexy is sure to follow. The reality is, however, that the two can, and sometimes should be separated. This is especially true if the participants in
When Kinky isn’t Sexy Read More »
We were conversing over Skype. It was late on her end and not so late on mine. We were talking about the distance between us, again. I’d just come back from seeing her in person for the first time, and we were sharing our surprise at how much we missed each other only days later.
Eight Miles – Looking For a Smooth Transition for Long Distance Relationships Read More »
Creating a list of hard and soft limits is generally one of the first things that we as submissives do when we come the realization that we’re interested in the lifestyle. Sometimes these are long lists and sometimes they’re short, but usually, we have a good idea of the things we’re interested in, the things
Overcoming a Limit (A Reflection) Read More »
Intro: Where were we again? It might be in poor taste to pick up where I left off after nearly a two-year hiatus from Submissive Guide, but I felt that long distance relationships was as appropriate as any to begin with, if not a little ironic. My Dominant and I are on the cusp of
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You Read More »
I’ve read a half-dozen articles on scattered around the scene that talks about all sorts of methods for keeping your body clean, for dressing to inspire confidence—or tactics to boost confidence without wearing anything at all; I’ve seen articles detailing in methods of hair removal, of after-hair-removal-care, but somehow in the jumble of cyberspace, I
Expressing Your Submission (with hair!) Read More »
As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting to
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet Read More »
To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct
Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships Read More »
After writing “ Rules for the Working Sub” my Dom suggested that I continue writing articles that focus on the long distance aspects of our relationship. At her encouragement, I’ve decided to try my hand at a series which I hope will be of help to anyone who is involved or is thinking of becoming involved,
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction Read More »
Although many submissive individuals would say that they were born submissive personalities, there are some who found themselves surprised by how much they enjoyed being the submissive partner in their relationships. By nature, I am not a submissive person. I was taught from a very early age to have my own opinions and to assert
Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role Read More »
Balancing professional life with submissive desires can be challenging. Discover practical rules and tips for working submissives to explore D/s dynamics while thriving in their careers.
Work, Submission, and Me: The Rules That Keep It All Together Read More »
