The self-esteem and grooming series wraps up with one final lesson: learning to accept compliments and ignore criticism. Explore how your reactions to others’ words influence your confidence and self-image, and gain practical tips for building healthier habits around feedback and self-perception.
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In Part 4 of the Self-Esteem Through Grooming series, we explore how diet and exercise influence confidence and self-worth. It’s not about perfection—it’s about discovering the lifestyle that helps you feel strong, balanced, and proud of the body you live in.
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In Part 3 of the Self-Esteem Through Grooming series, discover how maintaining healthy, polished nails can elevate your confidence and self-image. From manicures to mindful upkeep, nail care is more than vanity—it’s self-respect, self-care, and a small act that speaks volumes about pride and personal presentation.
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Part 2 of the Self-Esteem Through Grooming series highlights how hair care impacts your confidence and presentation. Discover how maintaining and styling your hair isn’t just about appearance—it’s about self-respect, personal pride, and reinforcing the beauty and worth you already carry within yourself.
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Part 1 of the Self-Esteem Through Grooming series explores how caring for your skin supports both confidence and self-esteem. Learn why tending to your body’s largest organ isn’t vanity—it’s an act of gratitude, self-respect, and a powerful step toward embracing the beauty you already have.
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The Self-Esteem Through Grooming Rituals series begins with a look at how body care and self-presentation influence confidence in everyday life and D/s dynamics. Learn how grooming can become a mindful act of self-respect, helping you embrace your body and build genuine self-esteem from the inside out.
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Submission should never mean silence. This post explores the essential rights every submissive has in a BDSM relationship—consent, safety, and the freedom to communicate openly. Learn how to keep your voice strong and your boundaries clear while nurturing a healthy, empowering dynamic with your Dominant.
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Discover how the Pomodoro technique can transform your daily routine as a submissive or stay-at-home partner. This simple method breaks tasks into focused intervals, making it easier to stay productive, reduce anxiety, and carve out time for joy. Practical, mindful, and effective—perfect for balancing service and self-care.
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One of the many delightful side-effects of moving to the same country as my Dom is that we get to actually DO couple things. We get to go out on dates, go out with other couples as a couple, invite people to our home for dinner parties—all of the grown up stuff that my parents
Publicly Domesticated, Privately Dominated – Subtle D/s in Public Read More »
It’s not pleasant, but it’s a reality that many relationships face, even when those relationships are kinky. It’s not the preference of one activity over another, but the desire for any activity at all; it’s the age old question: are you up for it? and the difference between your response and your partner’s. Having a
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A common misunderstanding that people who are new to the scene seem to have is that kink and sex are indistinguishable from each other: if something kinky ensues, something sexy is sure to follow. The reality is, however, that the two can, and sometimes should be separated. This is especially true if the participants in
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We were conversing over Skype. It was late on her end and not so late on mine. We were talking about the distance between us, again. I’d just come back from seeing her in person for the first time, and we were sharing our surprise at how much we missed each other only days later.
Eight Miles – Looking For a Smooth Transition for Long Distance Relationships Read More »
Creating a list of hard and soft limits is generally one of the first things that we as submissives do when we come the realization that we’re interested in the lifestyle. Sometimes these are long lists and sometimes they’re short, but usually, we have a good idea of the things we’re interested in, the things
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Intro: Where were we again? It might be in poor taste to pick up where I left off after nearly a two-year hiatus from Submissive Guide, but I felt that long distance relationships was as appropriate as any to begin with, if not a little ironic. My Dominant and I are on the cusp of
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You Read More »
I’ve read a half-dozen articles on scattered around the scene that talks about all sorts of methods for keeping your body clean, for dressing to inspire confidence—or tactics to boost confidence without wearing anything at all; I’ve seen articles detailing in methods of hair removal, of after-hair-removal-care, but somehow in the jumble of cyberspace, I
Expressing Your Submission (with hair!) Read More »
As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting to
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To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct
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After writing “ Rules for the Working Sub” my Dom suggested that I continue writing articles that focus on the long distance aspects of our relationship. At her encouragement, I’ve decided to try my hand at a series which I hope will be of help to anyone who is involved or is thinking of becoming involved,
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction Read More »
Although many submissive individuals would say that they were born submissive personalities, there are some who found themselves surprised by how much they enjoyed being the submissive partner in their relationships. By nature, I am not a submissive person. I was taught from a very early age to have my own opinions and to assert
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Balancing professional life with submissive desires can be challenging. Discover practical rules and tips for working submissives to explore D/s dynamics while thriving in their careers.
Work, Submission, and Me: The Rules That Keep It All Together Read More »
