This category provides practical advice and techniques for enhancing submission, from developing your skills to obedience and service to maintaining discipline and self-care.
Being a domestic submissive, one of my main purposes is to keep the house neat at all times. This task is not always so easy, especially when you hate doing them. I’ve never been much of a cleaner; Cleaning has always been on the bottom of my to-do list. Once a week I would spend […]
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There once was a time when I would have turned my nose up to bootblacking (gasp). And the germaphobe in me would have been mortified at the sheer thought of placing my lips or any other parts of my face on a pair of boots. Yet, I sit here today reflecting on my first boot
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In this last post in the pain management series, we’ll talk about the false edge, limits and the true edge. I hope you’ve enjoyed this series as much as I’ve enjoyed writing it for you. Over the course of the previous posts, we’ve hopefully learned how the body processes pain, the benefits of pain processing
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Continuing on the topic of processing pain we come to a very basic question, “What’s the benefit of this pain, anyway?” If you aren’t a masochist this can be a question with no clear answer. Some say, “it is part of submission,” others “to please their Sadistic Top,” and still others can say, “the benefits
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This is a continuing of the series on pain processing. If you want to read previous essays, check the first in the series on natural pain processing. Pain processing is natural to a certain extent. For some people—boys more than girls—an additional degree of pain processing is taught from a very early age, but not always
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We are nearing the end of this series on pain processing in play. What do you think can interrupt your pain processing ability? If you’ve experienced anything like I have, there are moments where you just can’t change the pain response to anything beyond pain. What normally feels really good is just not. There are
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I’m continuing the discussion on processing pain in play today. If you missed yesterday’s post, you’ll want to read about Negative Pain Management Techniques first. If you want to go back to the beginning you can do that too. Now that we’ve learned the negative ways we manage pain during play I’d like to cover a couple of the
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Yesterday we talked about the three ways that people naturally process pain. Today and tomorrow I’m going to cover the ways we manage the pain we experience. I’m going to stick with describing the pain that we experience during play for this discussion. Now, part of these posts will talk about the benefits from play that
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Sadomasochism is the giving and receiving of sensations. In a lot of cases, this also includes pain. Many of the sadomasochistic tendencies bleed into our relationships in some form or other so what better discussion than to talk about processing pain. Over the next week, we’ll cover what the natural pain process is, pain management techniques, how
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This is a guest post from Calliope. I’ve always thought of myself as a complete wuss when it comes to pain. My typical response to anything that hurts has always been of the “hide in my room and cry until it goes away” variety. Of course, “looking pitiful until someone takes mercy on me” has also
Exploring Endorphins from Pain Play for the First Time – A Point of View Read More »
There are a few non-sexual things that just do it for me, things that I get totally involved in until everything else just melts away. Often to the detriment of everything else as I’m sucked into a whirling vortex of OCD and tweaker heaven. Especially when it comes to grocery shopping and menu planning. Which
Beginning Domestic Service: Making The Most Of A Frugal Food Budget Read More »
How often have you dressed in a sexy corset or other fetishwear, only to experience ‘spillage’ when you bend over to serve your Master a drink? Fun though that might be for your Master, it might be a bit embarrassing for you. An elegant way around this problem is the ‘Bunny Dip’. This is a
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tina-poLD was inspired by the month long series of Domestic Service on Submissive Guide and has shared her own personal thoughts on the subject. Would you like to chime in? Leave a comment and let us know your own opinion! Domestic service encompasses many aspects of caring for a home and those who live there.
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Before Bathing Make sure that you have all of your supplies ready for use: Shampoo Conditioner Soap or Body Wash Shaving cream Razor Exfoliating scrub Wash cloth Towel: Find out whether they need one or two. Sometimes females need two as that is one for their body and a second for their hair. After Bathing:
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I think it was at least 3 years into my relationship with my Master before I had to cook for Him. I was terrified at the thought. When I visit Master, He barbecues great steaks or ribs – all meat and potatoes meals. One serving of steak was as much meat as I would eat
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I never used to enjoy domestic duties. In fact there are a number of days where I stare at my cleaning list as if doing that would make it disappear. However, I have slowly seen how having a clean house really makes it a home. Two years ago I stopped working outside the home and
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This is a guest post by danae of Domestic Servitude for this month’s Domestic Pleasure Series. Menu planning can save you money, time and just sanity. I menu plan when I make my grocery list. I start by going through my pantry and freezer and throwing out things that are old, expired or don’t look good/smell good.
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Learning how to mend and patch is an age old skill that used to be second nature, but now it’s a lot easier for people to go out and buy a new pair of jeans when they rip or a new sweater when you lose a button. Clothing has become more disposable. If you are
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This is a guest post by fuzzyP, a male submissive in a relationship with his Goddess and a regular participant of the Submissive Guide chatroom. When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service
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The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn’t learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal
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