This category provides practical advice and techniques for enhancing submission, from developing your skills to obedience and service to maintaining discipline and self-care.
Continuing my four-part series on types of submission today will be about positional service. As a reminder, the forms of submission are: Positional service is the most prevalent in non-D/S settings. It is customer service; you are in a position to serve, and so you serve. A set of itemized expectations defines the service. In […]
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This is a continuation of the series on the most common forms of service in a D/s relationship. The forms are: Situational service encompasses conditional service. The submissive serves the Dominant partner based on specific situations or circumstances rather than as part of an ongoing dynamic. Unlike transactional service, which often involves negotiated tasks or
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Service can mean different things to different people. Just as submission is different depending on the person and dynamic, so is the type of service that submissive provides. In the list below I have what I call the four types of service that are most common in D/s relationships. I’ve come across several different ways
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Every relationship dynamic is different. If you’ve been following this blog for any length of time you have been exposed to some very unique relationships and the submissives in those relationships. There are submissives who are pets, some who are slaves, others who, like you’ve read recently, are hunt sluts for their owners. Today I’m going
Submissive Skills: Service Topping For Your Dominant’s Pleasure Read More »
Hunting is a huge part of my Master’s life. As His submissive I could either consider that side of Him ‘vanilla’, or I could learn more about it and develop skills to become His ‘hunt slut’. ‘Hunt slut’ sounded fun, and it would give me a chance to spend more time with my Master! With
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The bedroom in most homes is supposed to be a refuge from the stress of the world; to reconnect with your partner and to recharge after a hard day at work. However, it is commonly the last room people clean and organizes to suit their needs. I know in our house the bedroom is often
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Not long ago I had someone ask me privately why I feel the need to help submissives with this website, and what qualifications I have to tell people how to improve themselves. And it’s true that I don’t have any life coaching training or experience with counseling, but for what I do here only one
For March Question Month Cilla Noir asks: How do you handle your serious mood swings or when something just “sets you off”? When you go from one end of the spectrum to another – sometimes justified, sometimes not. Normally, when I was on my own, I would just throw a fit. Being back in a
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Last month we were in the kitchen, this month I want to walk you through cleaning and maintaining a tidy bathroom. I feel that cleanliness in the bathroom shows guests how important cleanliness is in your home and your own person. While I currently don’t have much more than a hallway sized bathroom with a shower
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This post is another guest post by Skylerpet. You can read her other posts here. She wants to help us all get through the holidays with less stress. Here are some tips to help you. If you have other tips for holiday stress, please leave them in the comments! With the holiday season in full swing,
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The kitchen is the heart of any home and having a clean and germ-free work environment for cooking and food preparation is important. Knowing some skills and cleaning tips can make keeping your kitchen clean and sparkling effortless. No longer is doing dishes and mopping floors drudgery; enhanced it can be an important part of
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Protocol. It can be a scary word if you are new to submission. In a relationship, it is likely that you will have some protocol established to control your behavior. So, what is protocol? Simply defined, a protocol is the set of special rules that you follow for defined situations that remind you of your
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Your training resume should be growing in bulk and excellent information if you’ve been following along and developing your sections fully. We are now going to work on your community exposure section. What I mean by community exposure are all the classes, extended weekends, get aways and other events you’ve attended in your past that
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Since the beginning of Submissive Guide, I have been writing essays to help you build your service/submissive/slave resume. This is the living document of your experience and training on different tasks and a variety of relationships. If you are interested in reading the previous posts about the Training Resume I suggest you start at the topic
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I’m personally not a domestic person. When I do find the desire to clean it’s normally to relieve stress (believe it or not). It can help calm my nerves and give my mind something else to do while working on the house. Since I’ve become Master’s stay at home submissive I find I need to
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Accepting an invitation to visit friends that are into BDSM or the lifestyle can lead to a wonderful experience and the development of close friends. That is if you keep yourself aware of house rules and relationship dynamics. Generally speaking, a couple of D/s friends are not going to drop their dynamic around you since
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I’m a masochist and get sexual pleasure from pain; that’s wired into me. I’m also submissive. It’s who I am. For me, these two things go together. It’s not always the case. A huge misunderstanding is that you have to like pain to be submissive. Masochism is a part of your sexual identity; you either
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You have followed the whole series of Submissive Positions posts here at Submissive Guide. If not, start back at the beginning, I’ll wait for you here. Are you back? Ready to show them off? Today’s post is all about you! I want to see what you came up with for positions that worked best for you.
2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 14: Show Off Your Positions! Read More »
Reading the past posts on the Submissive positions project may bring some of you to the realization that you can’t perform these poses for health or body size reasons. This is to be expected. I can’t kneel back on my heels at all. So what is a good submissive to do? You alter the positions
2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 13: Customizing and Altering Positions Read More »
Just 2 days left in the Submissive Positions project here at Submissive Guide. If you need a review, please take a look at the primary post; it has links to all of the posts in the project. Today I’d like to talk about the bane of many a submissive; fidgeting. Sitting still is really hard for
