This category provides practical advice and techniques for enhancing submission, from developing your skills to obedience and service to maintaining discipline and self-care.
In the other article, I wrote about the differences between micromanaging and macromanaging and now I’m going to cover the differences between reactive service and proactive service. This was a little harder to do because most of what I could find online was comparing reactive service to anticipatory service, which is similar to proactive service, but not […]
Reactive and Proactive Service: What’s the Difference? Read More »
Sunday morning, we were sitting at the dining room table finishing breakfast. Sir sat there, sipped His tea slowly and thoughtfully. He was deep in the stillness of the moment. I was a different story. My mind began to race with all the lists of to-do’s and should do’s that awaited us for the day
Being Fully Present: Slowing Down to Live in the Moment Read More »
When Sir and I moved in together and we opened our bank accounts, it was a huge relief that bill paying was no longer on my to-do list. They always created such anxiety, even when I knew the money was there to cover the bills and then some. It felt as if it were a
How I Help Our Finances Without Knowing the Numbers Read More »
This is a guest post by Jessica. Personally, I have had a lot of experience with being overwhelmed by all I have to do around the house, but there are things you can do to make it feel less stressful, less like you are climbing a never-ending mountain. Don’t worry, you are not alone, and
Domestic Servitude: Struggling With Being Overwhelmed Read More »
I thought I’d tell you a personal story of how my life as a slave is developing in a unique and interesting way. It’s never been just KnyghtMare’s job to come up with ways to enhance and spice up our already powerful relationship and he loves to hear of things that I come up with.
A Slave Uniform – What’s It Look Like? Read More »
This is a guest post from Slave Dove. I am unsure where it originated, but am sharing it here from a now defunct website. These dinners are what many would view as a “scene” but they are not play parties. No one is available for physical “use” it is formal Old Guard Domination and submission at
Master’s Banquet – A formal D/s Feast Read More »
I’ve read a half-dozen articles on scattered around the scene that talks about all sorts of methods for keeping your body clean, for dressing to inspire confidence—or tactics to boost confidence without wearing anything at all; I’ve seen articles detailing in methods of hair removal, of after-hair-removal-care, but somehow in the jumble of cyberspace, I
Expressing Your Submission (with hair!) Read More »
Every single day I perform rituals that I’ve created to help me feel connected to my submission even if I’m not in the mood or feeling in the right mindset. They are especially helpful during times of stress and busy life when the D/s may seem pushed back so that other pressing matters can be
Working to Develop Personal Rituals Read More »
I listened to a podcast from Erotic Awakening the other day that talked about The Slave Journal. The idea for this document is not the same as having a journal or blog to document your life in and I thought it was an excellent idea and a useful tool for many relationships. Maybe even yours! So,
Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think! Read More »
This past year has just been a whirlwind of excitement for me. Moving to a new country to be with my Daddy and everything that comes with moving to a new country, adjusting to a new culture, a new way of life, and a new language. The biggest challenge of my move has been the
Me vs the German Language – A Lesson in Patience Read More »
The words “scene report” always have me first thinking of a crime scene and second of a BDSM scene report. Scene reports can often be requested by some Dominants especially in the early stages of a play relationship. I’m going to cover what they are, how to write one and how they help you and
How to Write a BDSM Scene Report Read More »
I am quite new in action to the lifestyle, but far from new in thought. I have known basically forever that I am a submissive…but have been stuck on knowing what to do about it. I am now quite happily with my Sir. He seems very pleased with my natural submissiveness…but we have one are
Help! I Need to Learn to Swear to Please My Dominant Read More »
This is a guest post by Shahjahani. She is a personal friend of mine and a fantastic educator. I originally heard of these precepts when speaking of death and dying. I elaborated on them then to help myself understand my place in the death and dying process. I shared my thoughts back then with those that
BDSM and Submission: The Five Precepts of Service Read More »
I’ve never been a submissive but my new boyfriend is a professionally trained Dominant that has been in the lifestyle for many years. I knew this about him before we started dating and told him I could accept it in our relationship. He’s ready to incorporate this but I find it utterly ridiculous to get
Kneeling Feels Absurd, How Do I Get Over It? Read More »
Cooking for someone who has a laundry list of items they don’t like feels like an impossible task here in this house. KnyghtMare and I have very differing tastes when it comes to food. Just as I could eat breakfast any time of day, meals are for specific times in KnyghtMare’s mind. We never have
Domestic Challenge of the Day – Cooking for a Picky Dominant Read More »
Not all Dominants take well to someone who wishes to serve them intimately and with all things. It may seem counter-productive but oftentimes the Dominant is very self-sufficient and requires little aid in their lives. So what is a submissive wishing to serve to do in a situation like this? What is self-sufficiency? A self-sufficient
How to Serve a Self-Sufficient Dominant Read More »
KnyghtMare enjoys a foot massage on what used to be a regular basis. Every Sunday night I would fill the plastic tub with hot water and salts to soak his feet before his massage. After they had soaked I would towel them off and then with massage oil or lotion would lovingly massage his feet.
Massage as Ritual Read More »
Well, there’s not really an App for service. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were? However, there are a lot of Apps out there that can make running your household (and your Master!) a lot easier! I just recently discovered the world of Apps. My Master has been a Mac guy for a while now,
Service: There’s an App for that! Read More »
Insomnia is a common condition. I have seen estimates that over half of all adults experience difficulties sleeping a few nights per week or more. I am not a doctor or expert on health issues but I have found something which helps me get to sleep at night: BDSM! There are two ways I have
BDSM To Cure Insomnia? Read More »
The last post in this series is not about speech but how we say things that speak a lot about our mood, impression of the situation and so much more – our tone. The tone is also something precarious because you can be misunderstood by your tone alone. How many times have you had to
Lessons in Submissive Speech 12: Don’t Use That Tone With Me Read More »
