Writing a letter to your future self is a common journaling practice to help you see how happy you are in the present moment, but the writing a letter to your past self is equally helpful. While you can’t save this for you to read later, the exercise is still beneficial, especially if you’re feeling […]
Why Writing a Letter To Your Past Self Will Help You When Your Struggling in Submission Read More »
I think we’ve all done it. We’ve set a goal for ourselves or we have a big project that we want to accomplish and then, within a few weeks or months we feel overwhelmed with the whole thing and want to give up. So, we set that goal again later that year because we’d really
Don’t Let Your Big Goals Intimidate You: Break Them Into Smaller Steps Read More »
The last time we were doing some solo-coaching here on Submissive Guide we had just gotten started trying to learn what coaching is and how to hold meetings with yourself, journal your thoughts and understand your current goals. I even bundled it up into an ebook if you want the whole first series. Solo Coaching
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I was failing as a submissive. Something in me had broken and that magical, powerful feeling that submission was once giving me was gone. I didn’t want to believe that I wasn’t submissive anymore but every single clue was that something was wrong with my emotional wellbeing, and my happiness was clouded by the depression
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This is a guest post by Bibi for the Day in the Life Series. Interested in sharing what a day in your life looks like? Email it to me! My name is Bibi. I am a Full-time Slave to Master Jimmy, and this is a day in my life. I am not a youngster and am
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Sometimes, even though you try your hardest, that spark of submission fades. Whether that be from stress, relationship issues, a death in the family or some other upheaval there may come a time when you feel yourself fighting submission, arguing with every request and pushing against your Dominant at every turn. You may even just
Feeling Submissive Again After a Break – How I Am Reclaiming Myself Read More »
There are many relationships both inside and outside of the Lifestyle that exist under undue strain and eventually crumble under the weight of the behaviors that are a result of self-sabotage, and all too often these habitual patterns aren’t recognized though they are repeated with great frequency. A cycle of strife is perpetuated year in
Uprooting Self-Sabotaging Behaviors: Learning How to Make Changes that Stick Read More »
The other day, I was getting ready to run some errands with Daddy. I was sitting on my side of the bed when I dropped something. When I bent forwards to pick it up, I found a small box underneath the bed. I had no clue what was in the box, so I picked it
The Importance of Self-Acceptance When You Are a Little Read More »
When an individual enters a relationship, it’s quite easy to lose yourself. You start using ‘we’ instead. “We” liked the movie, “We didn’t like the restaurant” and of course, there’s all those love songs about two becoming one (I am so sorry if the Spice Girls song 2 Becomes 1 is now stuck in your
Remember Who You Are – Staying True to Yourself in a D/s Relationship Read More »
The other day in a female submissives only group I help run on Facebook, I posted a link that talked about what things were expected of a 1950’s housewife. This isn’t the first time I’ve seen this and it probably won’t be the last. This is one of those things that tend to pop up on
Stop Sub Shaming: It’s Not Cool to be Judgy Read More »
As I continue to delve deeper into my journey as a slave, I have come to the point where I am giving another round of contemplation to matters I once saw as pretty straightforward – one being the matter of the connection between submission and obedience in regards to hierarchical relationships. There seems to be
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What if I told you that you could be living your life without regrets, successful and happy and not settle for less than the best? What if I told you that all it takes is changing your morning routine? Would you do it? I have been in a slump, a pretty big slump. I know
How I’m Using “The Miracle Morning” to Rekindle My Happiness in Submission Read More »
When I say “boss” what I really mean is “in control of some part of your life.” So maybe you own your own business. Maybe you’re a team leader or supervisor. Hell, maybe you’re a single parent raising a kid or two, working two jobs, and basically being two people. Whatever “boss” means to you,
Can You Be a Boss and a Submissive? Read More »
The other day in a submissive’s group I’m in on Facebook, a member made a post about something her dominant wanted her to do, yet she was absolutely 100% against doing and was looking for help on how to get past her unwillingness. There were several comments and there was one in particular that caught
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. How’s your self-esteem? Do you feel
Self-Esteem and Unsolicited Advice – Submissive Meditation Monday Read More »
The end of the year looms, and in these darkest of days, all our flaws, our struggles, and our shortcomings seem to shine brighter for the lack of light. And so our journeys to create new and better versions of ourselves commence. We’ll go to the gym every day. We’ll eat right. We’ll stop procrastinating.
Create SMART Goals For Your New Year’s Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year! Read More »
I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. My personal submission has been in
The Submissive Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday Read More »
It’s the most wonderful time of the year, well, at least that’s what the song says. For many out there, the holidays aren’t the most wonderful time of the year. With November being more than half over, the holidays are in full swing. For many, this is an extremely stressful and depressing time of the
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I haven’t really written much lately. It’s been a part lack of motivation and part lack of inspiration. I’ve had a few ideas, but nothing that really convinced me that I need to actually put down any words. But then the Universe hit me with a really big stick. A couple of months ago, I
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We’ve all probably uttered this phrase a time or two when having a heated conversation with a loved one, “you’re becoming defensive.” From the time we are born, we learn defensive mechanisms that are meant to protect us from pain and trauma. A child’s first defense is to cry, and they tend to cry a
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