This is a guest post by Pam for the Day in the Life Series. As a new submissive, I am constantly seeking out new information. Scouring the internet has almost become an addiction. With each new article, I read I can find others to dispute it. I have come to realize the journey for me […]
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This is a guest post by fuzzyP for the Day in the Life Series. I was asked by luna to write about one of my typical days in service to my Dominant. While that task is straightforward enough, the challenge lies in making one of my typical days entertaining and illuminating for you, the reader.
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Recently, I was contemplating the situation of being single in the Scene because of an email I received from someone concerning interacting with male dominants. Essentially, she responded to the sexual whims of the men she met online from the space of not having any boundaries set. Part of her inquiry to me was why
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Frustration is a normal human response. It can get out of hand and escalate to anger if not handled well. As submissives, we seem to deal with frustration more openly than others in the lifestyle. Let’s start with a definition from Wikipedia about frustration. In psychology, frustration is a common emotional response to opposition. Related to
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This is a guest post by Dara. What is Kajira? If you had asked me that 4 months ago I would have had no clue. Slave girl? Now there’s a term I recognized, and if you had made the suggestion that I would one day in the very near future submit myself to becoming someone’s
Submission – it’s hard work. For the 24/7 types it’s an all the time thing. So what happens if you wake up one day and you don’t feel like submitting? You could voice it as a break or get really cranky every time you are asked to perform your duties as a submissive. If you are
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I thought I would come up with some snazzy title, or something with more zing than ‘Faith’, but life has moved me to the point where I desire to keep it simple and to the point, with a splash of creative Blyssism. For just over a year now, life has had me in a gauntlet with
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Some of the insane talk coming from online communities all the time is that you can’t be submissive without a Dominant (or can’t be slave without a Master). This can cause quite a confusion for novice submissives who are learning more about themselves and can even dash your dreams. Okay, so I understand why people
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Some level of selfishness is healthy, how else can you get what you want and need to remain happy if you don’t get what you want occasionally? There are right and wrong ways to go about it though.
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I’ll be the first to say that even after 7 years of being with my Dominant that I still occasionally test his limits and the rules placed on me. It’s not because I don’t believe that I should be following the rules or that he’s lacking in his Dominance. Not at all. It’s a natural
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The past month has been a busy month for me, as I prepared and delivered my first presentation at an event. Before this I had never given more than a planned speech in college, and this was a new and exciting experience for me. It didn’t come without it’s ups and downs however. During the
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I’ve been writing about submission here for a long time. I do my best to give a positive image to submission for those who are new and learning about BDSM and possibly wanting to explore it with their current of future partners. There’s nothing wrong with the way I write and have been prompted on
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For most of us, we’ve always felt that strong pull towards serving others. For others, that urge was quieted beneath propriety, shyness or fear. No matter where you started your submissive journey, the road always ends the same: spending our lives living for another. We live to serve, please, ingratiate and adore our owners. We
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Within weeks of the realization that I wanted to be more than a kinky bed partner, I made the personal definitions of submissive and slave. Since then, over 7 years ago they have changed only slightly. So little that I had decided that based on my definitions I could never and would never be a
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This guest post is a honeymoon gift from mi_vida. Let’s face it, we all have fears. I’ll be the very first person to admit it! In fact, I’ll do you one better and let you know I, literally, have a crap ton of fears. Well, the official ruling is still in debate within the scientific
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In today’s instant culture, the information we want to find can be discovered with just a click of the mouse. It’s fantastic for the kink community because that means more people are discovering this part of themselves earlier and are jumping in with both feet at times. What’s dangerous is that more and more information
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Presented with the dilemma of being outspoken, independent and strong-willed when submissive desires crop up, what do you do? Are these personality traits incompatible? I’m here (and living proof) that no, they are not. You can be all of these things and still be submissive. A Dominant friend of mine explained it best, “You’re a strong submissive
Strong-Willed and Opinionated: Can I be Submissive? Read More »
There is some recent discussion of “breaking a slave” going on on the popular social network, FetLife right now. I’m watching it spread across the groups that I’m in and thought I’d not chip into those discussions but share my thoughts and opinions on it right here. These are not the only interpretations and I
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I had originally planned to write about a different topic, was well on my way in developing the article, then I realized at some point that I kept coming back to just what is honor and integrity? So here we have it my exploration on the subject… Honor and integrity, we say and hear these
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A slave I admire wrote a blog on how she felt she had changed since she met her Master. She wanted to go back to the more outgoing, social being she had been before she met Him. After all, she pointed out, this was what had attracted Him to her in the first place. This
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