Your submissive journey is also a path to self-discovery. In this category, you’ll find resources and reflections to help you grow emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
In the first article of this series, I discussed how I see feminism fitting in with both the BDSM community and submission. Moving to a personal level, I have identified with feminism since I could say the word. As I grew up, I would say that my ‘type’ of feminism was definitely more of a political […]
A Feminist Submissive – Does Such a Person Exist? Yes! And I’ll Tell You Why Read More »
I have spent much time pondering the seemingly conflicting views of feminism and submission. In the first part of my article, I would like to discuss feminism and how it fits in with my view of both the BDSM community and submission. In the second part, I will explore how I practice feminism in my
Acceptance of My Feminist Submissive Identity Read More »
Not everyone is capable of being submissive. It is even possible that you are not really cut out for it. We all have different thresholds for what we can and can’t do, but realizing we can’t be submissive isn’t the end of the world. Great, so how do you know if you can be submissive
Are You Cut Out to Be Submissive? Read More »
When I admitted that I had crossed into adulthood, somewhere around 23, I realized that the manners that had not been instilled in me as a child hindered my interactions with people. I appeared crude and rude and immature. Since that defining moment, I have found my manners and enhanced my etiquette. Hopefully, people see
Mind Your Manners: Not just for kids anymore Read More »
Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be challenging to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy workday. A submissive can use rituals to help them achieve the right mind-space, leaving the outside world behind and regaining the
How I Use Simple Rituals to Regain My Submissive Mindset After A Busy Workday Read More »
When I first started exploring submission I heard and read numerous times that submission is a gift to the Dominant that accepts it. For a long time, I subscribed to this way of thinking and there is nothing wrong with thinking about your submission this way. I’m not here to tell you that you are
The Gift of Submission, Or Is It? Read More »
I’ve been developing a submissive code of ethics for myself to help give me long term goals and a focus. I feel it will bring about change in me that perhaps I can’t see yet. I thought I would share it here so that you can perhaps get some ideas for developing your own code
My Submissive Code of Ethics Read More »
In previous articles of this series, we’ve talked about honing into your values and making sure your personal needs are met, now is a good time to talk about the past. That’s right, I’m sure you are aware by now if you’ve been following this series that a lot of things can impact your goal
Letting Go: How to Let Go of the Past and Be a Happy Submissive Read More »
So, you want me to tell you how you can tell if you are submissive or not? Asking someone else if you are submissive is like asking a blind man what color your dress is. Is there some magical online quiz that can say whether you are submissive or slave? Unfortunately no and I don’t
A very common first request of a potential Dominant, either online or offline is to have you start a submissive journal. If you’ve never kept a diary then this can be a daunting task. Having to write openly and honestly about your feelings and experiences can have a huge impact on your submissive and personal development.
How To Start Your Submissive Journal Read More »
Being an emotionally healthy person is a goal that all of us have but a smaller margin actually accomplish. With the constant stress of commitments and modern day obligations, our emotions face the brunt of it. The goal of a submissive is to seek that balance in emotional states so that our service appears stress-free
Living as an Emotionally Healthy Submissive Read More »
I love surfing the submissive blogs to see what other people are talking about. Many times it gives me something to talk about here on this site. This post is one such example. Over on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked, “if you are not expected to do
Is It Submission If You Like What You’re Doing? Read More »
You know you’ve entered online submissive ground when everyone you don’t know starts to refer to you as a sister. It’s been years since I’ve ‘lived’ online but this is something that has always irked me. Recently on FetLife, I saw a question that had an interesting twist to the whole sister submissive thing that I’d like
Don’t Assume Submissive Means Sister: Calling Me Your Sub Sister May Be a Bit Much Read More »
A few months ago I started a list of things you can do to improve your submission immediately. If you want to see what’s on that list, you can find that post in the archives. I’d like to continue to add to that list because there are always things you can do but may not see
Another 7 Things You Can Do Today to Improve Your Submission Read More »
Competition is human nature. From the time we are children we start to see who is ‘better’ and hopefully, that is you. It could be as simple as having more ice cream than your sibling thus making you better or getting the best grade on a test, making you better than everyone else in the
My Submission is Better Than Your Submission: Advice About Competition Read More »
We all have those little voices in our head that tell us what to do. Sometimes it tries to convince us that our disobedience is okay. The voices are very convincing at times and then we have guilt riding with us until we come clean. Perhaps you’ve heard these voices yourself: “Come on, he won’t see me
Coming Clean: Admitting Your Disobedience Read More »
We all have responsibilities in life. The family needs to be taken care of and fed, you have to work, pay the bills and keep the home repaired. Kids have to be cared for and carted around from games to classes to other outings. There are days you feel that there aren’t enough hours in
Juggling Daily Life and Submission Read More »
Those of you who read my blog already know this, but for most of you, this will be news. I have an addiction. At the end of last month, I came to the realization that I am a binge eater and secret eater. I’m addicted to food and the way it makes me feel. While
Handling an Eating Disorder While in Service to a Dominant Read More »
When starting out in submission, there are a lot of roads you can choose and so many people direct novices to training and need to be trained. Most of these novices then seek out a Master or Dominant to train them. This concept that the Dominant can teach the submissive more about surrender is a
Dominance as a Slave Training Tool for Better Submission Read More »
There is no way to be sure but, the large majority of information about the D/s lifestyle is in fiction form. While it’s nice to escape into emotional and physical stories, they are fantasy. For submissives looking to get their feet wet, these stories could hinder or harm the very ideas that develop in the
Do You Answer When Submission Calls You? Read More »
