Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Very often the stereotype of submission is that the submissive person loses the ability to have an opinion. While that clearly isn’t true except in the absolute rarest of occasions, how does communication factor into your submission and how […]
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! What does trust mean to you in the context of submission? Trust means that my openness and honesty does not get dismissed out of hand. It means that what I say and feel has importance to my Dominant and
30 Days of Submission: Day 17 – What Does Trust Mean? Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Have you found your submission has changed with different partners/relationships? If you’re involved with partners of both sexes, does your submission relate or change based on gender or does it depend on the person? Unfortunately, you probably won’t get
30 Days of Submission: Day 16 – Is My Submission Different in Various Relationships? Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Has your submission evolved over time? If so, how has it evolved for you and if not (or if you are just starting out) how might you see or imagine it evolving in the future? Well, how much time
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Does religion have any bearing on your decision to submit? If not, are you familiar with religious based submission and do you view it as similar to other types of submission or dissimilar? I was raised in an Open
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is sexual availability, being available to your partner any time he or she wants, part of your submission? Why or why not? Are there limits to this? Sexual submission is a huge part of my relationship with KnyghtMare. If
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you include financial submission within the definition of your own submission and if yes, how does it manifest itself? If no, is there a particular reason why? Are you familiar with the concepts of financial submission? Do you
30 Days of Submission: Day 12 – Financial Submission Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission? How do you define service? What does it mean to you? If not, what is it about the concept of service that is not for you?
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Does any element of BDSM occur as a part of your submissive relationships? How do you feel about BDSM? Is it core to your submission, peripheral or non-existent (other than the submission part)? BDSM and Kink were where I
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? Why or why not? Looking back on yesterday’s post on discipline and punishment you’d think that there would a large component of spanking or other corporal punishment but there
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? How do you feel about it? Discipline and punishment are a small part of our dynamic. KnyghtMare prefers not to have to discipline me, but
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! What do you feel are the roots of your submission? Do you think it has something to do with childhood? Is it a relationship management tool as in the practice of domestic discipline? Is it a sexual thrill or
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At first, I originally had something else planned for my next article, but for some reason, the word confidence keeps going through my mind. Not one of those normal passing thoughts, but one of those thoughts that keep lingering and I can’t shake to save my life. So, I figured the only way to clear my
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about
30 Days to Submission: Day 5 – Counting and Comparing Relationships Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules, and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them? KnyghtMare and I run a structured relationship. I expect rules and limits to my submission to him. It
30 Days of Submission: Day 9 – Structure, Rules and Rituals Aplenty Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you switch into a dominant role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought
30 Days of Submission: Day 4 – Itching to Switch Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! How do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive? How do you feel when you express your submission? I covered a bit in day one that I discovered submission through Yahoo conversations with Dominants
30 Days of Submission: Day 3 – That Submissive Feeling Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are
30 Days of Submission: Day 2 – Who has my submission? Read More »
As I shared with you last week I am doing Nanowrimo this month so I’m focusing my writing there. While I’m away I have prepared an interesting series for Submissive Guide. This is the first of 30 days where you all get to learn a little bit (or a lot) about me. I’m going to
30 Days of Submission Challenge: Day 1 – Labeling My Submission Read More »
During this past MsC (the Master/slave Conference) in September, there was a discussion about being an unowned slave at an event and the downside of such. And before then, I had participated in a discussion on FetLife – more of an open dialogue between the owned and the unowned about the tension between the two
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