Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is sexual availability, being available to your partner any time he or she wants, part of your submission? Why or why not? Are there limits to this? Sexual submission is a huge part of my relationship with KnyghtMare. If […]
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you include financial submission within the definition of your own submission and if yes, how does it manifest itself? If no, is there a particular reason why? Are you familiar with the concepts of financial submission? Do you
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission? How do you define service? What does it mean to you? If not, what is it about the concept of service that is not for you?
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Does any element of BDSM occur as a part of your submissive relationships? How do you feel about BDSM? Is it core to your submission, peripheral or non-existent (other than the submission part)? BDSM and Kink were where I
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? Why or why not? Looking back on yesterday’s post on discipline and punishment you’d think that there would a large component of spanking or other corporal punishment but there
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? How do you feel about it? Discipline and punishment are a small part of our dynamic. KnyghtMare prefers not to have to discipline me, but
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! What do you feel are the roots of your submission? Do you think it has something to do with childhood? Is it a relationship management tool as in the practice of domestic discipline? Is it a sexual thrill or
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At first, I originally had something else planned for my next article, but for some reason, the word confidence keeps going through my mind. Not one of those normal passing thoughts, but one of those thoughts that keep lingering and I can’t shake to save my life. So, I figured the only way to clear my
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about
30 Days to Submission: Day 5 – Counting and Comparing Relationships Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules, and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them? KnyghtMare and I run a structured relationship. I expect rules and limits to my submission to him. It
30 Days of Submission: Day 9 – Structure, Rules and Rituals Aplenty Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you switch into a dominant role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! How do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive? How do you feel when you express your submission? I covered a bit in day one that I discovered submission through Yahoo conversations with Dominants
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are
30 Days of Submission: Day 2 – Who has my submission? Read More »
As I shared with you last week I am doing Nanowrimo this month so I’m focusing my writing there. While I’m away I have prepared an interesting series for Submissive Guide. This is the first of 30 days where you all get to learn a little bit (or a lot) about me. I’m going to
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During this past MsC (the Master/slave Conference) in September, there was a discussion about being an unowned slave at an event and the downside of such. And before then, I had participated in a discussion on FetLife – more of an open dialogue between the owned and the unowned about the tension between the two
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Last week I let you know that I was going to be participating in National Novel Writing Month for the 3rd year to produce content for Submissive Guide. I will be writing like a mad woman throughout the month of November and because of that, wanted a break from writing for the site during Nanowrimo.
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I’m often stunned by the amount of mail I get from submissives telling me that they thought submission was going to be easy; that they could stop worrying about life, give up all responsibility and just serve someone else’s whims. The fantasy was strong with these men and women and I hate bursting people’s bubbles
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The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship. It is, of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection. We all know that the path of submission is
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I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals
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This is a guest post by Slave Kelly. Paralysis of analysis became a well-known phrase when used by Martin Luther King, Jr., during the Civil Rights Movement. However, this human phenomenon has been documented for centuries. Paralysis of analysis occurs when one over-thinks an issue, or situation, to the point where the ability to act
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