I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me.

"I am always getting into trouble."

"I can't seem to do anything right.

"Why can't I just do what I'm told?"

Have you heard yourself say these things? I know I have on many occasions. It seems that no matter how long you've been doing this thing we call submission, there are times of rebellion, confusion, frustration and just not getting it right.

This isn't the moment to beat yourself up over it, although that's a hard thing not to do. It's a time for reflection, a time for understanding and a time for acceptance. In order to learn and grow, we must endure these times of disobedience and struggle. Backsliding and being corrected for it is a part of the process. We have to accept that we'll not be a perfect version of ourselves all the time. No matter how much we wish to be.

It's also a time for learning and growth. Perhaps getting into trouble is a call for help or a plea for attention. Through no intentional disguise, you are asking your Dominant to feed your submission in some way that you've not yet been able to express. Some of the most looked up to submissives that I know still have moments where they get in trouble for the simplest things. Instead of beating themselves up about it; they learn. They accept that they may need help or guidance or attention.

So first we must accept that we will falter. We will get in trouble and we will slip. It's a part of life.

How we handle it will teach us far more than if we avoid the lesson it's trying to teach.

Stop what you are doing right now and think about the last time you got in trouble with your partner. You could even be in trouble now. Why did you get in trouble? What lesson is it teaching you? How can you grow from it? Think long and hard about the answers to these questions. They will open the door to growth and understanding that you may not already have.

You didn't know that making mistakes was so beneficial, did you? It's a chance for you to learn and grow.

But you have to let it happen. You can't dwell on the negative. You need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and learn how to avoid that particular mistake in the future. You can do it. I'm not saying it's easy or that the answers you seek to those questions up there will come quickly to you. Look inside and listen.

Growing hurts. That's why they call it pains. Remember, they are temporary and the beauty of submission that is your submission is right on the other side.