For singles and couples looking to take a walk on the wild side but questioning where to begin, How to be Kinky offers the perfect starting place. Instead of emphasizing techniques and clinical issues, it takes a more practical approach, with advice on finding a scene, negotiating kinky play with a partner, maintaining boundaries, kinky uses for common household objects, and the proper protocol at fetish events, as well as the basics of BDSM play and role-playing.
Review
Looking for a fun and interesting introduction to BDSM? Try How to Be Kinky by Morpheous. This one is better than others I’ve read in the simple fact that it doesn’t overwhelm you with facts and details that just aren’t important when you are take your first timid steps into the kinky world.
Morpheous writes in a conversational manner as if you are having a cup of coffee with the author. It’s well organized and broken up into 9 chapters, from your first look, exploring play with your partner, entering the community and even the shift from online to real time. Instead of focusing a clinical approach this is a practical introduction into the world of kink.
This book is filled with beautiful, tasteful images to help you visually see what your mind has been fantasizing. Some give step by step on basic forms of play, others are there to tantalize and invite thoughts.
I love that every bit of real estate in the book is used with purpose. The body is filled with guest commentary and photos, the sidebars are lined with glossary terms and quick tips. It really is a wonderful resource. I like that each topic is readable on it’s own and you can go through the book in any order, skipping from topic to topic or reading it straight through. I spent the first 30 mins just looking at all the photos.
One flaw that isn’t really a flaw is that the book waffles back and forth between pronouns. I’m certain it is to express a non-gender specific relationship, but to shift he and she in a single paragraph is confusing at times. Perhaps it’s my own sensitivities.
I wouldn’t recommend this book to anyone who has already experienced some BDSM. This book is specifically geared towards people who haven’t done anything to explore and are wanting to branch out into spicer sex practices. I could also see this book used to introduce a curious partner to kinky sex. It would be perfect for that.
If you are just learning of your desires, this is an excellent first step.