Rules in a D/s relationship can be more than boundaries—they can be powerful tools for connection, growth, and maintaining the submissive mindset. In this article, I share how rules shape my submission, the emotional value they hold, and practical strategies any submissive can use to follow them with consistency and purpose.
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Full Question: How do you know when you’re ready to start sub-training? Answer: It depends on what you consider submissive training. First, let’s discuss what the word ‘training’ really means in a D/s dynamic setting. When you undergo training, what is really meant is that you are learning the mannerisms, behavior, attitude, and activities that
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Do submissives really get to have a voice? This article explores how to speak up with honesty and respect in a D/s relationship while avoiding “speaking out.” Learn how sharing your needs and feelings strengthens trust, communication, and your dynamic with your Dominant.
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Creating a list of hard and soft limits is generally one of the first things that we as submissives do when we come the realization that we’re interested in the lifestyle. Sometimes these are long lists and sometimes they’re short, but usually, we have a good idea of the things we’re interested in, the things
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It’s often the case that protocol develops in D/s relationships that start out with a bit of structure to them, whether the relationship intended it or not. While there are some casual style relationships that have protocol, I haven’t seen a lot of it when a relaxed relationship is preferred. Now with that said, I
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Feeling uncertain about what’s expected of you as a submissive? You’re not alone. This beginner-friendly guide unpacks the realities of D/s dynamics, clears up common myths, and helps you explore your own needs and boundaries. Learn how to talk about expectations with a Dominant, spot red flags, and build a relationship that fits you both. Whether you’ve already entered a D/s relationship or are still figuring things out, this article offers guidance, clarity, and reflection prompts to support your journey. Because submission isn’t one-size-fits-all—and you deserve to feel seen, safe, and empowered in your role.
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What does it mean to be collared? It can mean many things to many different people. For some, it is a new beginning of a journey. For others, it is a step in the training process. It all depends on the Dominant you are with. For every Dominant has a different way of doing things.
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Just as saying yes or answering in the affirmative can be done many ways, saying no has many ways you can say it also. When a submissive gives a negative answer it can be a simple “no” or it can be as elaborate as the Dominant wishes. Some Dominants do not allow the submissive to
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Not long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other
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I’ll be the first to say that even after 7 years of being with my Dominant that I still occasionally test his limits and the rules placed on me. It’s not because I don’t believe that I should be following the rules or that he’s lacking in his Dominance. Not at all. It’s a natural
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When I was a novice submissive, one of the questions I got asked pretty regularly online was, “do you have any training?” Well, no I don’t think I had. What was training anyhow? Where do I go to get it? What would I be learning? Now that my novice days are behind me I don’t
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In this hustle and bustle world, we are losing an important connection. No, I’m not talking about the internet; we are all plugged and tuned out from the world around us. We seldom recognize the people around us let alone acknowledge them. If your goal is to be a submissive that serves every wish of
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Topping from the bottom has been given a bad wrap. It’s considered by many to be a faux pax for any submissive. Online communities shun and shame many people who even ask about the subject and want to know if what they did was considered wrong. Too many people tell these people that yes it
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You have followed the whole series of Submissive Positions posts here at Submissive Guide. If not, start back at the beginning, I’ll wait for you here. Are you back? Ready to show them off? Today’s post is all about you! I want to see what you came up with for positions that worked best for you.
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Today’s challenge in the two week project here at Submissive Guide is all about standing at attention. One of the most common ways you can present yourself as submissive to a Dominant is by the way you stand. You may do it now even though you don’t have any specific rules as to how to stand. Pay
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Day 1 of ‘2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions’ starts with learning to kneel. Discover how to perfect your posture and embrace kneeling as a meaningful act in your D/s dynamic.
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Submissives all around will identify with one or more of these terms: discipline, obedience, structure, and rules. I’m a submissive that needs structure. With structure can come rules, and that’s how my submission best functions in my dynamic with KnyghtMare. I serve him by actively following the rules that govern the structure of my day.
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Your Training Resume is a folder or binder with all of your training, history, and experience in it so that you can give it to a prospective Dominant or keep a training history for yourself. It’s a novel concept for submissives and one that I’ve not seen so far. Part of the Resume is to
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