Full Question: I’ve been with Master for almost 9 months, and although I love our relationship, I feel there is a disconnect with my submission. Recently, I’ve been acting out and just messing up. It’s not all a conscious decision; I just do some of it without thought or plan. I don’t know how to […]
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Full Question: Master and I both work outside the home. How does one keep the mindset of a slave while working and keep communication open? Answer: You may not like this answer, but you can’t keep it continuously. Have you ever seen a cartoon where a person is trying to balance a bunch of different
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Full Question: Do you think that someone can lose their submissive side? And how do they get it back? Answer: I feel if you identify as submissive, you can’t actually lose it, but you can lose sight of why you are submissive and what your focus in submission is. I get visibly angry at the
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Communication is not the sexiest word a submissive can utter, but it’s one of the most necessary. An issue I hear brought up quite commonly is that it just doesn’t “feel submissive” to be talking about needs with a dominant. Still, there comes a time in every relationship when it feels like the relationship is
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I was failing as a submissive. Something in me had broken and that magical, powerful feeling that submission was once giving me was gone. I didn’t want to believe that I wasn’t submissive anymore but every single clue was that something was wrong with my emotional wellbeing, and my happiness was clouded by the depression
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Sometimes, even though you try your hardest, that spark of submission fades. Whether that be from stress, relationship issues, a death in the family or some other upheaval there may come a time when you feel yourself fighting submission, arguing with every request and pushing against your Dominant at every turn. You may even just
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Recently I’ve encountered a few questions
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. If a human being at some point in their childhood becomes the focus of physical and/or sexual abuse does this then turn them into a submissive at some later point in their lives?
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I don’t know what it is, or why, but recently, I’ve been seeing a lot about fear. In a regular email newsletter I get, I came across a quote by Jack Canfield “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” and seeing that hit me like a ton of bricks. Then, a few
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I work as a veterinary assistant which is both physically and emotionally challenging to the point that when I come home, I’m completely exhausted. I find it very hard to serve my Dominant when this happens. I’m just so worn out from working–I lift (sometimes wrestle!) animals all day, I’m involved in a very fast-paced
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Creating a list of hard and soft limits is generally one of the first things that we as submissives do when we come the realization that we’re interested in the lifestyle. Sometimes these are long lists and sometimes they’re short, but usually, we have a good idea of the things we’re interested in, the things
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Good – better – best – favorable – bountiful – fertile – handsome – attractive – suitable – fit – profitable – advantageous – pleasant – agreeable – salutary – wholesome – amusing
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Dear lunaKM, I’m fairly new to the lifestyle and Master is quite experienced. I enjoy everything that we’ve done and looked forward to more. Until I met Master, I didn’t know I was submissive so this is a whole new world. I haven’t had any issues with following his rules and have been very obedient.
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Are you a strong and independent person who identifies with the “right side of the slash” (as in /submissive or /slave)? Are you confused by your submissive drive given that you don’t consider yourself to be a submissive person? When I wrote about empowerment through submission, several people contacted me to learn more about how
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Sunday morning, we were sitting at the dining room table finishing breakfast. Sir sat there, sipped His tea slowly and thoughtfully. He was deep in the stillness of the moment. I was a different story. My mind began to race with all the lists of to-do’s and should do’s that awaited us for the day
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One of the hardest things we do as submissives is asking for play. For many of us, coming out and saying we want play feels like we are topping from the bottom, stepping out of our submissive boundaries and doing something that isn’t in our character. But I’m here to tell you that it isn’t.
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I’ve noticed a lot of questions in FetLife recently (and almost always) about how to maintain the mindset in a 24/7 relationship. I’ve not responded to these there because I’ve created this article as my reply. The advice that the people have received may or may not help them. My thoughts on the subject are
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! What are the emotions that most directly let you access submission? What feelings do they inspire? I really had to think about this one for awhile because I feel my submission isn’t an emotion and doesn’t need to be
30 Days of Submission: Day 24 – Emotional Connection to Submission Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Can you feel submissive without a dominant partner? If so, how does your submission express itself? If not, how do you handle your submission or submissive feelings? I do believe that you can feel submissive without a Dominant but
30 Days of Submission: Day 22 – Submission without Domination, is it possible? Read More »
We reach far and deep within to touch the submissive mindset. The moment is fleeting or short lived and we have a need to reach it again and again. Often the goal is to live in the submissive mindset all the time. For others, it is being able to reach the mindset on a whim.
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