How to Reach and Maintain the Submissive Mindset in BDSM

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Getting into the submissive mindset can feel like chasing a moving target—blissful one moment, elusive the next. This article explores what the submissive mindset truly is, how to access it more consistently, and practical ways to sustain that feeling without burning out. Whether you crave a 24/7 headspace or just want to reconnect more often, this guide offers realistic advice, personal insight, and tools to help you find your way back to submission when you need it most.

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6 Qualities of Mindful Submission When Communicating With Our Partners

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Communication is not the sexiest word a submissive can utter, but it’s one of the most necessary. An issue I hear brought up quite commonly is that it just doesn’t “feel submissive” to be talking about needs with a dominant. Still, there comes a time in every relationship when it feels like the relationship is

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Feeling Like a Failure – The Crash and Burn of a Slave: A Personal Story

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I was failing as a submissive. Something in me had broken and that magical, powerful feeling that submission was once giving me was gone. I didn’t want to believe that I wasn’t submissive anymore but every single clue was that something was wrong with my emotional wellbeing, and my happiness was clouded by the depression

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Feeling Submissive Again After a Break – How I Am Reclaiming Myself

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Sometimes, even though you try your hardest, that spark of submission fades. Whether that be from stress, relationship issues, a death in the family or some other upheaval there may come a time when you feel yourself fighting submission, arguing with every request and pushing against your Dominant at every turn. You may even just

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Taking a Break – Submissive Meditation Monday

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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to  submission. I hope to select  topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or  submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for  topics that might work for a Meditation Monday,  please email me. Recently I’ve encountered a few questions

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Fear in Submission

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I don’t know what it is, or why, but recently, I’ve been seeing a lot about fear. In a regular email newsletter I get, I came across a quote by Jack Canfield “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” and seeing that hit me like a ton of bricks. Then, a few

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Submitting when Physically and Emotionally Exhausted

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Many submissives work demanding jobs that leave them depleted before coming home to serve. This article explores how exhaustion impacts submission and offers advice for creating recovery time, negotiating expectations with your Dominant, and practicing grace with yourself. Learn how to balance obedience with the reality of physical and emotional fatigue.

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The Myth of the 24/7 Submissive Mindset (and Why So Many of Us Struggle)

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I’ve noticed a lot of questions in FetLife recently (and almost always) about how to maintain the mindset in a 24/7 relationship. I’ve not responded to these there because I’ve created this article as my reply. The advice that the people have received may or may not help them. My thoughts on the subject are

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