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Do you have tips to navigate play for subs who have depression/low self-esteem?

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

We know submission can be powerful, affirming, and deeply validating—but when you’re carrying the weight of depression or low self-worth, that same vulnerability can feel overwhelming. You’re not alone in this. If you’re not seeing a professional to help improve your mental health, you can find a list of kink-aware therapists at kapprofessionals.org. Navigating play […]

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Breaking the Apology Habit: Alternatives to Overusing ‘I’m Sorry’

By Luna Carruthers / 10 minutes of reading

I was raised to say “please,” “thank you,” and apologize if I did something wrong. This politeness is ingrained in us as children. Being polite serves as a way to express empathy and respect for others. However, the phrase “I’m sorry,” has become a reflex rather than a meaningful expression. Many of us use it

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Things Have Changed and I Feel Insecure In My Relationship

By Kayla Lords / 5 minutes of reading

Dear Submissive Guide, I am a sub and I have an amazing Master. He is loving, caring, respectful and just everything a sub could ask for. He collared me 6 months ago and we moved in together 2 months ago. We get along great in every area so far. The problem is this, lately, I’ve

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Self-Esteem/Grooming Series Concludes: Accepting Comments and Compliments

By kallista / 13 minutes of reading

At the beginning of the series, I addressed the idea that the final layer of the way we perceive ourselves is a product of how others perceive us. Although the focus of the series technically is building routines around grooming and health to maintain your own self-image, it would be unfair to ignore what I

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Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 4: Diet & Exercise

By kallista / 7 minutes of reading

This was probably the trickiest piece to add to the series. None of this is actually meant to be soapboxing, but because body image is such a hot-button topic, it was difficult to keep this short, effective, and yet general enough that I’m not trying to dictate the way that people should eat and exercise

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Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 3: Nail Care

By kallista / 8 minutes of reading

As I stated in the introduction to my article about the upkeep of hair, the care that you give you nails, feet and hands play an important role in how you present yourself to other people, and as such, their upkeep can greatly boost your sense of self-worth. Again, this is partially achieved by giving

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Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 2: Hair

By kallista / 16 minutes of reading

Whether you’re a little, a slave, or a sub, the condition of your hands and hair can make or break your appearance. Just like wearing a costume, you’d never put on an outfit and then leave your hair to do its natural thing, and the remnants of your three week old nail polish on your

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Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 1: Skin Care

By kallista / 15 minutes of reading

It’s probably a cliché to start this article with a play on the adage, “beauty is only skin deep,” but let’s face it, when you’re embarking on a conversation about your complexion, there really is no better way to start. Taking care of your skin is incredibly important, not just on your face, but on

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The Day I Stopped Rejecting Compliments and Learned to Love Myself

By Luna Carruthers / 5 minutes of reading

About 5 years ago I was an emotional mess. I had really poor self-esteem and my body image was even worse. I’ve always been an obese woman – since I was a teen I’ve carried more than a few extra pounds. So the cruel and hateful words of my youth sure contributed to the way

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Self-Esteem in Submissives: Self-Talk, Affirmations and Self-Love

By guest-author / 6 minutes of reading

This is a guest post by an unknown author. It was found and marked as part of the public domain. Self-esteem relates to how you feel about yourself, whether you like yourself. Being submissive is not about being a “doormat” or a “lesser person”. But the sad thing is, many go through life feeling less

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Why Confidence is Important to Submission

By tequilarose / 4 minutes of reading

At first, I originally had something else planned for my next article, but for some reason, the word confidence keeps going through my mind. Not one of those normal passing thoughts, but one of those thoughts that keep lingering and I can’t shake to save my life. So, I figured the only way to clear my

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Who Influences Your Submission?

By tequilarose / 5 minutes of reading

The other day, I found myself wondering who and what influences me with the decisions I make. The reason why I found myself pondering this is that I had begun to doubt myself and everything I believed and how I lived my life because of something someone had said about me. This person who had

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Finding My Submissive Focus With a Mantra

By tequilarose / 4 minutes of reading

Several years ago, before I met Daddy, I had a mantra that I used to write every day in my journal. It was one of those moments of inspiration for me. I needed something that was going to pull my self-esteem out of the toilet and help me feel better about myself. It went something

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