Originally published 4/3/2009, updated and expanded 4/22/2025 Submissive Frenzy, often simply referred to as “sub frenzy,” is a psychological state of overwhelming desire and need that can arise at any point in a submissive’s journey. While it is most commonly associated with those new to submission and BDSM, seasoned submissives are not immune. It may […]
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Cultivating a positive mindset is essential for every submissive’s journey. Learn how to reframe negative thoughts, practice self-care, and embrace self-compassion to strengthen your submission and personal growth. Discover practical tools to shift your perspective and build confidence in yourself and your dynamic.
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In D/s, the roles we agree to can seem very cut and dry. It sometimes feels like there is a submissive mold and a dominant mold—almost like all s-types and D-types come from the same cookie-cutter and just bake differently. This is because we have pre-established notions that dictate to us what we feel is
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When an individual enters a relationship, it’s quite easy to lose yourself. You start using ‘we’ instead. “We” liked the movie, “We didn’t like the restaurant” and of course, there’s all those love songs about two becoming one (I am so sorry if the Spice Girls song 2 Becomes 1 is now stuck in your
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There are times where I don’t feel like being a slave. I look around the apartment and see what needs to be done, dishes, laundry, dinner prep, grocery shopping and I think to myself I really don’t wanna do any of it. Daddy will give me errands to run and even though I’m nodding my
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As the holiday is upon us once more, I wanted to share some common feels with others who struggle with recovery. Recovery from anything: drink, drugs, eating disorders, self-harm, etc. If you are or are with somebody who considers themselves “in recovery,” this is for you. Now I only have the perspective of (using Male/female D/s
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As I stated in the introduction to my article about the upkeep of hair, the care that you give you nails, feet and hands play an important role in how you present yourself to other people, and as such, their upkeep can greatly boost your sense of self-worth. Again, this is partially achieved by giving
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. With great
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Mollena Williams, a well-known and respected speaker, educator, and Ms. Leather 2010, has inspired my submission more than she will probably ever know. One of my favorite messages she conveys is that the submissive’s prime directive (affiliate link) is to take care of the property. The meaning can apply to many things in a submissive’s journey, but
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One weekend, my Dominant and I had a number of really great scenes. No matter what we were doing, we were deeply connected to each other and it was blissful. I can’t even remember what we did but I remember the high I felt I was soaring on no matter what else we were doing
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Dear lunaKM, As a slave in training, I start doubting my worth when I don’t get a response within an hour. –impatient Dear impatient, From your brief question, I am going to assume that the response you are waiting for is through text, so this could be a long distance or online only relationship. I
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Sub drop is the feeling of hopelessness and depression that can follow the extreme rush of endorphins during intense play or sex if the sub is not cared for appropriately afterward. Care varies from person to person – some of us need to be held and cuddled and praised and iced or hot packed accordingly,
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Ms Luna, your guide has become my bible and I thank you for your writings. My first Dom/mentor/teacher and I have parted suddenly and unexpectedly. Since this is my first D/S relationship, what can I do to feel better about the raw unraveling and abandonment of feeling so alone? First, you are not alone. People
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Whenever I frequent online groups, a common theme in them is telling the person asking a question to not be a doormat. Rarely do we ever get a description of what a doormat submissive is or how to prevent becoming one (or even if the person is actually a doormat submissive). There are many misconceptions of what
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There are things you can do to help you prevent some or all of the symptoms of sub drop. Taking care of yourself after you play is a personal responsibility that I wish more submissives would take upon themselves.
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When I realized that my previous article on Sub Frenzy didn’t give you any advice on how to tackle it head on I knew I just had to get an article to you about how to manage sub frenzy so that it leaves you smarter, stronger and more prepared to handle the rush. What is Sub Frenzy
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Several years ago, I was reading a book. In the book, one of the characters had a tattoo that read “quod nutrit me destruit me”. After reading a bit further, the translation of the quote was given, “that which nourishes me also destroys me”. Long after finishing the book, I was unable to forget that
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Working outside the home is a requirement for most submissives in D/s relationships. Not everyone gets to be a stay at home submissive. We have family and kids, mortgages and debt to pay. Working is a part of living. But work does not have to be our life. It’s a struggle to change your power
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The many lessons in life can be picked up in some of the most unusual places. The other day I was watching my cats and had a sudden realization that they way they live could have lessons for me and my submission if I wanted to see them. The truth is that you can pick
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KnyghtMare enjoys a foot massage on what used to be a regular basis. Every Sunday night I would fill the plastic tub with hot water and salts to soak his feet before his massage. After they had soaked I would towel them off and then with massage oil or lotion would lovingly massage his feet.
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