Full Question: I recently met a Dominant who is amazing and “seems” to be exactly what I have been looking for, but I’m afraid that he is too good to be true. When looking for a new Dominant, how do I know that he could be my next Master? Answer: Relationships are hard work. Once […]
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Question: Is it appropriate to have an expectation from your Dom that they will tell you if they’ve been intimate with someone else? Answer: The short answer: yes. Absolutely, 100% yes. A relationship, especially a D/s one is built on trust, communication, and honesty. You should not only expect them to tell you when they
from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-10-16 The topic for this article came to me from a reader survey I did over a year ago where I asked you what was most pressing to your at that moment and this question, “must I always wait for my Dom to tell me what to do?” came up.
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. There is an almost universal level of acceptance for the ‘idea’ of one man or ‘Dominant’ having many or multiple partners or submissives. Such a Dominant may be considered to have prowess, charisma,
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When I started learning about submission it had nothing to do with “lifestyle” or “relationships” or “24/7”. It was about feeding a desire. Sure, much of that was masochistic play but not all of it. So, when I met people and they were saying they were lifestyle submissives or in 24/7 relationships I looked at
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We all put a huge amount of thought into our contacts -or we should. But there are often times that things arise and we have no way of predicting them. I recently shared another post about “Outside Forces.” In that post, I talked about steps that may be taken when an outside force storms it
Points to Negotiate in Your D/s Contact That May Not Have Ever Occurred to You Read More »
Monogamy isn’t dead. It is still the leading form of relationship in D/s and SM relationships, no matter what someone else might tell you. Human nature dictates that we aren’t wired for long term fidelity, but so many of us are perfectly fine in one partner for all time relationship. You can still look for monogamy if
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When we first begin exploring submission and our desires to serve there are usually a lot of baggage we bring to the table. It can cloud our minds and impact how we serve and submit to someone else. No one comes without any baggage at all but the way you handle it and prepare for
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This is a guest post by kahluna. It’s funny to me to see people wanting a Dominant but then looking for “chemistry” as well. They want to fall in love with the Dominant of their dreams. Apparently, these submissives have come into the lifestyle thinking that a Dominant is BDSM’s version of Prince Charming. Ladies, He
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