Full Question: I have started to converse with a D that interests me. Now before I get swept up in the feels of being a sub, I want to make sure I am checking the right boxes. What am I looking for in terms of time to build the d/s relationship? Obviously, this will
How long does it take to build a D/s Relationship? Read More »
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. You have gorged. Years have passed from that first moment of recognition of self. Over those years you have explored different people and situations. Peeked inside of places you may have decided just
Beyond the Kink Buffet: When You’re Ready for a Lifetime Partner Read More »
I’ve been a practicing submissive for roughly five years now; most of that time has been in a long distance capacity, but regardless, my role as a sub has played an integral part in shaping my role in my relationship with the person who is not only my Dominant, but (I hope) my life mate.
Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style Read More »
Submission doesn’t mean silence. Too often, subs believe they shouldn’t express needs once the dynamic is set—but that’s a myth. This guide helps submissives learn how to communicate openly, ask for what they need, and strengthen their D/s relationship with honesty and clarity. Because submission is active, not passive.
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A new D/s relationship can feel deeply meaningful, making an abrupt breakup especially confusing and painful. This Ask SubGuide response reminds submissives that BDSM titles don’t guarantee trustworthiness, commitment, or good relationship skills. When someone ends the relationship poorly, allow yourself to grieve, learn from the experience, and move forward more cautiously.
I’m Confused. He Wants to “Just Be Friends” While Ex is Visiting Read More »
I thought I’d tell you a personal story of how my life as a slave is developing in a unique and interesting way. It’s never been just KnyghtMare’s job to come up with ways to enhance and spice up our already powerful relationship and he loves to hear of things that I come up with.
A Slave Uniform – What’s It Look Like? Read More »
When I first discovered my submissive side, Sir gave me a BDSM checklist to fill out. It was a spreadsheet over six pages long with categories such as sex, bondage, S&M, role-playing, and toys. The columns include basic yes/no/maybe options, as well as soft/hard limit and “only with Sir.” The list was so comprehensive and
A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Reviewing and Updating your Checklist Read More »
Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Has your submission increased or decreased over time? Have you ever had to renegotiate your submission due to a change in your feelings or circumstance? Honestly, I can’t say if my submission has increased or decreased over time because
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