Full Question: I’m trying to find my first munch meeting in NY area. How can I know if it’s safe, and where can I find one? Answer: Getting out and meeting kinky people face-to-face can be so intimidating. I understand the desire to make sure that you are walking into the safest environment possible. First, […]
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Full Question: Trying to find my first munch meeting in the NY area. How can I know if it’s safe, and where can I find one? Answer: Finding a munch is a recommended first step for anyone interested in meeting people face-to-face and getting to know the larger community. Due to the Pandemic, finding munches
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I talk about going to munches as a good first step into the lifestyle and there’s certainly a lot of good that can come from that. But when you are already nervous or shy, having a negative experience will make you feel like it just wasn’t worth it or that you don’t fit in. When
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Wondering what really happens at a BDSM play party or dungeon? This guide walks you through who you’ll meet, what to expect, and how to handle your first event with confidence. Learn about etiquette, consent, and safety so you can explore your local kink community feeling prepared and welcome.
Nervous about attending your first BDSM munch? You’re not alone. This post explains what happens at a munch, who you’ll meet, and how to overcome those first-time jitters. Discover how these casual, welcoming meetups can help you learn, connect, and start building relationships in your local kink community.
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New to public kink spaces? This post breaks down the essential etiquette and general protocols to follow at munches, dungeons, and BDSM events. Learn how to stay respectful, confident, and composed while engaging with your local community—starting with one golden rule: always be polite.
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Looking for ways to meet local kinksters? This post breaks down the different ways to connect, from munches and educational events to online groups and casual socializing. Learn how to approach your local BDSM community with confidence and curiosity while building authentic, respectful relationships.
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Wondering how to find your local BDSM community? This post walks you through using online tools—like FetLife, social media, and event directories—to connect with local kinksters. Learn where to look, how to reach out, and how to start building meaningful real-world connections in your kinky community.
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I sign up for a lot of emails. I get four to five daily recipes newsletters as well as several ebooks bargains of the day, daily quotes, and an occasional blog here and there. The other thing I sign up for is called The Daily OM. It’s a daily email newsletter with a message that
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Are you looking for kink friends and fun close to you? Have you heard about munches, but don’t know what they are, much less where to look? Are you traveling or relocating and not sure about the community at your destination? Or, are you already involved, and you want your local organization to grow? FindaMunch.com
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I was asked in email a while ago about how safe BDSM groups are for people in high profile careers and the risk of being exposed. It’s a valid concern for anyone that seeks outside support and knowledge so I thought I’d share with you what I had to say to this person. Here’s their
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Well, you did it. You finally took the steps necessary-you found a munch, made friends, joined a dungeon and it happened. You fell in love. Not with a certain someone, but with your community. It happens to a lot of us lifestylers. We immerse ourselves in our dungeon, our dungeon friends, “our world.” Then, we
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This is a continuing discussion about Munches. If you’d like to read the first post, Attending a Munch now. Once you find a munch in your area, you may want to contact the hosts in advance and let them know you are coming. This way they can keep an eye out for you at the door,
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“Go to a munch!” That’s advice that you will often hear when you start exploring the BDSM lifestyle. But what is a munch? What can you expect from the people there? And what should you do to attend? Why should you attend a munch? This is often the first step in exploring the BDSM lifestyle
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One of the most feared activities of a novice is getting up the nerve to meet other people face to face. Yet this is one of the first things that I and many others recommend for those wishing to get into BDSM. I encourage people to learn all they want behind the comfort of a
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