Question: Why is everything about BDSM/kink sexual? I read a post on FetLife once stating that a play scene could absolutely be non-sexual, but of course, they didn’t give any examples. I have never seen a non-sexual scene. If non-sexual play is possible, then why is almost everyone naked (or close to it) at play
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Caregiver/little dynamics are often misunderstood within and outside the kink community. This article explores common misconceptions about these relationships, clarifying emotional roles, consent, and structure while helping readers distinguish between healthy caregiver/little dynamics and inaccurate stereotypes.
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Fifty Shades of Grey introduced many people to BDSM, but its portrayal of consent remains controversial. This article examines how fiction differs from real-world kink, explores healthy power exchange, and explains why communication, negotiation, and informed consent are essential in BDSM relationships.
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Popular media strongly influences how people understand BDSM. This article explores the stereotypes, misconceptions, and unrealistic relationship dynamics often found in movies, books, porn, and television, while also considering the positive side: media can spark curiosity, encourage discussion, and sometimes give people language for their own kinky experiences.
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Not that long ago, I found myself reading an article on Dominant Guide written by Morgan, who is the leading contributor but also an absolutely amazing woman. I’m not bragging about this article because I love the author, but because of what she was writing about. For those of you who haven’t clicked the hyperlink above, I highly suggest
Nobody’s Perfect-Including Your Dominant! Read More »
I’m often stunned by the amount of mail I get from submissives telling me that they thought submission was going to be easy; that they could stop worrying about life, give up all responsibility and just serve someone else’s whims. The fantasy was strong with these men and women and I hate bursting people’s bubbles
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I am a Tumblr whore. There’s no other way to describe it. I spend way too much time on there looking for pictures. Most of the pictures I re-blog and most of those who I follow post lifestyle related pictures. I am very particular about the pictures that I re-blog. The pictures that I post
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This is another guest post by dina of kajiradreams. She continues her thoughts on Gor and the life of a kajira. You can also read her thoughts on what it’s like to be an owned kajira. The strengths of a kajira and the misconceptions of what a kajira is and does. And what strengths better a kajira
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