One thing I learned while putting together the Guide to Your First Munch was that when someone goes to a meeting for kinky people, with the idea that they are entering a whole new world, they think that all the courtesies and manners they learned before are somehow no longer extinct. People often ask me how they
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We are all online anymore. We don’t hand out phone numbers but readily give our email addresses and instant messenger ids. The world has shifted from a direct contact world to one behind screens. We are no longer watchful of our behavior and manners online. I’ve also been caught up in the anonymity that talking
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Sometimes we forget that speaking in a submissive manner could include moments we don’t know who is on the other end of the conversation. Answering the phone or the door is a process that has gotten far too sloppy lately. I hope that with this advice we can begin to correct that. At least at
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One of the most valuable things that I think any submissive should know is how to express gratitude in more than one way. I know I’ve taken a lot for granted when I was first starting out and exploring kink with anyone who was interested. Never once did I say thank you for it. I
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In everyone’s daily exchanges with people there comes a time we will need to interrupt another person or persons to pass on information. For a polite and graceful submissive you should endeavor to not interrupt someone needlessly but to find an appropriate time to step into their presence. Often times I am sent as a messenger for
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Saying yes is one of the most frequent phrases I say on a regular basis. There are several ways you can express a “yes” response to your Dominant or others. When a submissive says “yes” it can be as simple or elaborate as the Dominant wishes. This depends on the formality of the relationship and
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The proper apology is an art, it really is. But before we put that together I’d like to cover the reason for apologizing in the first place. Submissive Guide has just released a new expanded edition of Lessons in Submissive Speech. Get Yours Now! Apologizing is not admitting your intentional disobedience. It’s not about accepting the
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You should never be afraid to ask a question of your Dominant, however, in certain circumstances, there are inappropriate ways to ask questions and inappropriate questions. First, and I have a hard time at this one too, you shouldn’t question a Dominant’s orders. It is not a submissive’s position to know why a Dominant wishes
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Generally speaking, the first time you encounter someone in a BDSM context you will likely have to introduce yourself. We’ve all heard that you only get one chance to make a first impression to make sure it’s a good one. I’m going to break this up into two separate sections. One for single submissives and
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When I admitted that I had crossed into adulthood, somewhere around 23, I realized that the manners that had not been instilled in me as a child hindered my interactions with people. I appeared crude and rude and immature. Since that defining moment, I have found my manners and enhanced my etiquette. Hopefully, people see
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