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Should the non-kinky person make an effort to accommodate the kinky person’s needs and wants even if they are not interested?

Short answer: no. And the kinky person shouldn’t expect you to.  In any healthy relationship, whether kinky or not, communication, respect, and mutual understanding are key. If one partner has specific needs or desires, the other person needs to be open to listening and discussing them, even if they don’t share those interests. However, this […]

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Five Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Manipulate Your Vanilla Man into Being a Dominant

People often misunderstand how relationship communication works because they may have had such poor examples or think that coercing or manipulating someone is par for the course. You don’t want to tease someone, push them to get angry or jealous with you in hopes that the ensuing fight ends with hot and steamy makeup sex

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Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

In part 1 of this series of articles, we examined the initial approach for discussing your submissive desires with your vanilla partner. In part 2 we examined how to address the issue if your partner does not respond positively to the initial approach. In this final part 3, we examine how to proceed if your vanilla partner reacts positively

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Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 2- My Partner is Not Interested

“What do I do if my significant other is vanilla?” This is part 2 and deals with a situation in which your vanilla partner is not receptive to what has been discussed in part 1. As mentioned in part 1, if after the first conversation in which you have expressed a mild version of your BDSM desires

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