This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. If a human being at some point in their childhood becomes the focus of physical and/or sexual abuse does this then turn them into a submissive at some later point in their lives?
Submissive Myths: Submission is a Result of Childhood Abuse Read More »
Have you ever felt like if you made a suggestion or requested a change in the relationship to your Dominant was horribly inappropriate, that it was overstepping your boundaries as a submissive? What about asking for something you’d like to do, like have sex or play, or even just go out to dinner? Do you
Learn to Speak Up and Speak Out: Empowering Yourself to Have a Voice Read More »
By Sensuous Sadie If I had a nickel for every submissive who hit on me, I could open my own dungeon. The real bummer about the whole thing is that I’m submissive myself. Oh sure, I top now and then, but when it comes down to it, my BDSM orientation is submissive. So, you ask,
Strong and Submissive: Exploring the Phenomenon of Strong Female Submissives Read More »
The self-esteem and grooming series wraps up with one final lesson: learning to accept compliments and ignore criticism. Explore how your reactions to others’ words influence your confidence and self-image, and gain practical tips for building healthier habits around feedback and self-perception.
Self-Esteem/Grooming Series Concludes: Accepting Comments and Compliments Read More »
Learning to accept your body can be a powerful act of self-care and submission. This meditation invites submissives to slow down and practice compassion toward the body they have right now, encouraging gentler self-talk, grounding, and appreciation without pressure to change or “love” every part instantly.
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Critics have long debated whether BDSM empowers or exploits those who participate. This article examines that discussion through the lens of consent, agency, and personal choice, encouraging readers to look beyond stereotypes and better understand why healthy BDSM relationships cannot be reduced to simple assumptions or outside judgments.
Empowerment, Not Exploitation: Women Activists are Wrong About the Kink Community Read More »
Master/slave relationships can look very different from one dynamic to another. This reflective article explores the diversity of M/s relationships, encouraging readers to move beyond black-and-white thinking and recognize that healthy power exchange is shaped by consent, communication, shared values, and the needs of those involved.
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During this past MsC (the Master/slave Conference) in September, there was a discussion about being an unowned slave at an event and the downside of such. And before then, I had participated in a discussion on FetLife – more of an open dialogue between the owned and the unowned about the tension between the two
Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave Read More »
This is a guest post by Slave Kelly. Paralysis of analysis became a well-known phrase when used by Martin Luther King, Jr., during the Civil Rights Movement. However, this human phenomenon has been documented for centuries. Paralysis of analysis occurs when one over-thinks an issue, or situation, to the point where the ability to act
Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission Read More »
“How can I be the submissive he wants me to be?” “Can you give me advice on how to be the best submissive I can be?” “How do I know I’m going to be a good slave?” I get these questions all the time and they are a valid and reasonable concern. All of us
Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential Read More »
Your personal responsibility is one of the most important tools in a single submissive’s arsenal. It keeps you safe and protected from the most common predators, it will help you learn and grow while waiting and often has a positive result if maintained once you are no longer single. Personal responsibility is all about empowering
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A presenter I saw recently said that as a master, the first thing he does is to ask for his new s-type to fill out one of those online “sexual interest” lists where you rank your kink interests on a scale from zero for “Yes, please,” to five for “Oh, HELL no.” Then he takes
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Did you know that how you see the world isn’t what makes your life positive or negative, it’s how you interpret your life’s events that can turn the glass half full to half empty? Your skill in interpreting events and experiences for better or worse lies in your hands. Oftentimes as submissives we tell ourselves
Solo Coaching – Glass Half Empty or Half Full: Working on a Positive Point of View Read More »
The Ready-Made Submissive. This is a phenomenon that I am seeing pop up around the BDSM community. Why is this becoming prevalent? What exactly is a ready-made submissive? How can we, as a submissive, not fall into the pitfall of this? This is what I am going to talk about, and, hopefully, help you to
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Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go off and want to blame the abuse for how you live your life now. I can’t say that I have the global answer, but I do have
Nurtured or Natural: The Connection Between Submission and Childhood Abuse Read More »
Recently there has been a lot of talk about Feminism and its role in society where it’s related (or not related) to submission in a D/s context. I read kaya’s post from Under His Hand, that while being a rant, was a well thought out discussion on how narrow-minded a lot of feminists are who
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I was asked in an email for some help from a girl that was confused about the information she was given by submissives bent on giving her ‘good’ advice. She’s been happy in a relationship with her Dominant and while they live a D/s life she’s always seeking more advice on the right way to
You Aren’t Doing It Right – Dealing With Criticism From Others Read More »
