Full Question: How do you feel about self-collaring? Answer: I don’t think my personal opinion about self-collaring is necessary, but I would like to talk about what it is and why it can create conflict within the community (and it shouldn’t). A BDSM collar can have different meanings. It can show ownership, devotion, or submission. […]
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Full Question: What is a Day Collar? Do you have one? Could you share a picture? Answer: When people talk about Day Collars, they mean a collar that doesn’t look like an obvious leather BDSM collar. Generally, it is discreet in appearance, often passing for conventional jewelry. Some professions have wardrobe or safety rules regarding
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Hello there! There is no “proper manner” for asking for a collar. It’s not a common expectation in the BDSM community. Some Dominants require that the submissive ask to be collared, others insist that it’s their responsibility to ask if the submissive wants to be collared by them. If you are familiar with John Norman’s
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In the post Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning, I address the matter of presenting a petition to a potential Master. However, I didn’t fully address that space between the time of presenting the petition and (hopefully) the collar, at least not at length. But, this can be one of the most trying times for
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When we talk about collars in BDSM, we often mean the symbol of a relationship commitment between two people. When a collar comes into view, some people want to commemorate that with a ceremony. Let’s talk a bit about collars, their symbolism in D/s and M/s relationships, and how you can build a formal ceremony
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